Do I have HPD

(I'm sorry if I'm not supposed to start a new thread, or if there was somewhere else to put this.)

I looked at the questionairre on another site, but I wasn't sure, because many of my answers were somewhat gray...I was hoping someone could help me out. It's very important.

Have other people told you that you always need to be the center of attention?
No

Do people sometimes misinterpret your friendliness as a romantic or sexual invitation?
Literally? No. But lately (with one group of people) my actions have been misinerpreted as flirting.
I'm going to (rationalize?). I've been involved in theatre for a while, and am used to being very physically comfortable with people. So things like hugging etc never seemed more than "friendly" to me.

Do your emotions change quickly? Has anyone ever commented that your emotions do not seem real or sincere?
No. For the second one I think sometimes when people are upset or need advice, I say what I think of as right, even though I might not really feel sympathy.

Are you disappointed if people don't notice how you look?
It depends. If it's someone I like, or if it's a date I spent a lot of time getting ready for (made a special effort), I get disappointed. But I don't really say anything about it. It feels weird to verbally draw attention to yourself that way. I don't want people to think that I'm fishing for compliments Still I'm not sure if this is wrong just for the fact that I'm disappointed.
When I'm among my close friends, I'll sometimes tell them I got a new haircut, or show them some new design I made with eyeshadow etc. But I think they do that too. Is that a normal girl thing? I'm in highschool.

Do you think you would make a good actor or actress?
People say I'm good at acting, and it's what I aspire to be, so hopefully.

Do your opinions change depending on who you are with? If someone says they have a headache or upset stomach, do you find you feel the same thing?
Not really. But if someone has an opinion and makes a good argument, then sometimes I do find I'll change my opinion. Or if I had a mixed opinion before, I might be swayed to their side of the argument.

Do you sometimes get hurt in relationships because you think the relationship is more serious than the other person does?
It's actually usually the other way around.

Do you feel a close personal relationship with a boss or a professional you have not known very long
No, not really.





I guess I'm just wondering- am I just a typical drama person or do I have HPD? Or are they the same thing even?

I think it's the second question that worries me most, because I found lately people have misinterpreted my actions and friendliness. And just lately it caused a bit of problem.

Also I'm not sure what they mean by overdramatic. There are times when I'm very angsty in my blogs, or when I make very over-the-top jokes to make people laugh, but I'm not sure if that counts.

I do admit I'm pretty sensetive and as well when I receive criticism from family members, I don't take it so well. However, I don't usually have a problem with constructive criticism from professionals, teachers etc, so long as it's valid.

Also I don't know if this counts as narcissistic, but I really enjoy getting ready- getting dressed, hair etc. Sometimes I don't do anything makeup or hairwise, but I usually try to dress well (unless I'm going camping, running, staying around the house, etc). I also find when I go through beauty magazines I feel bad about my appearance, also sometimes when I just don't look good that day. Sometimes I do feel very good about the way I look, and have confidence. Some days I don't. It's really weird. I like to put effort into the way that I present myself, partly because I find that people who put in effort tend to be more well-perceived at least on first impression, and as well I just feel that sort of "your body is a temple" idea. I don't want to present myself as a slob, etc. I have a strange kind of idea of being "ready." If I have a zit and I feel like it that day, I'll cover it up, but most days I don't bother. On the other hand, I wear mascara, lipstick and lipgloss every day. Also I keep redoing my hair until I get it right. If I can't get it right and I have to leave, usually I have to fix it when I'm not in front of a mirror, and then not look in a mirror until I get back home.

I don't think I'll be able to get professional help at this point in time, but it would help to know, just so I can be more aware.

i don't think you have been through enough experiences as of yet to classify yourself as an hpd. if you are still in high school, as you say, then a lot of girls your age could be mistaken for hpd.

fast forward 7-10 years and you find yourself having more and more in common with the symptoms you listed below...if you have become highly, highly manipulative, cheat like crazy, flirt with everyone in sight old/young/male/female, lie a lot, come down with imagined illnesses, are unable to remain in a committed relationship, use your friends, act helpless to get what you want, find yourself attracted to those who give you no reaction...etc. etc. then, perhaps, you should re-consider whether you are an hpd or not. right now, in my opinon, you are too young to know, for sure.

just my opinion, though.

Nah you sound like a normal girl to me.

All of what soulsearch said is true though if you notice what he said in yourself later in life as well as most of your relationships ending up as failures then you can give HPD another look.

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You sound very normal to me. Some of this is related to your age and the confusion and formation of identity that happens at this stage. You are not an adult and your behaviour will not be that of a normal adult. I guess everyone is a little strange in their teens- thats normal behaviour .

Hold on for the ride- the adolescent period is very confusing- full of self doubt. You do not know who you are, what you want to do, what is life, society, parents etc all about. Once you get older, these will subside, and life becomes good again- and not so confusing( or is it that you get used to the fact that you cant and dont want to know everything ?).

You sound relatively healthy ie. a nuerotic personality.