-a classic! Re-mastered !

by **rumin8r9** » Fri Nov 10, 2006 12:47 am

I was reading back a ways and found this totally spot-on story by an poster a year ago.
Read it and weep-
they're all the same- H P D -
I wish there could be a worldwide Public Service Warning issued on these people!

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[color=red]rcd1390 wrote:
I have enjoyed reading everyone's comments. I too became involved with an HPD. Almost immediately she was telling me I was wonderful and she was in love with me. She constantly told me she hoped the relationshio would work, and would ask me if I thought we would make it long term. Big red flag...and I chose to ignore it. Everything was wonderful for the first three months, then I started noticing the inconsistencies. For instance, anytime I'd press her on her actions, she'd say she lived in the present and didn't think about things deeply like I did. She was also seemingly unaware that her odd behaviours did not represent the actions of a woman that was in love. Putting me first was never a thought when it came to what she wanted to do. She was constantly flitting around, meeting her girlfriends, not involving me most of the time. I got a "gut feeling" one night and stopped by her house at 11:00 pm. She didn't answer the door for quite some time, and then when she did, she said Oh, there's someone I'd like you to meet...naturally a guy was sitting at her bar. She hadn't answered my calls, tried to lie about the whole incident, and as I picked apart her story with logic, everything fell apart and she accused me of being an interregator and broke up with me. Naturally she wanted to get back together a few weeks later and told me she didn't have sex with him that night, but very matter of factly said she did after we split up. I went back with her three times, and each time the same insensitivity would arise, I'd feel like an object, and get angry. Ha! She had guys come form out of town...old "buds" that she said there was no reason they couldn't stay at her house after a night of drinking rather than stay at a hotel. She even told me one left a voicemail saying he wanted to be more than just a friend, so would I please stay with her. i declined, saying he could stay at a hotel. Like you guys, I was entranced with the fun parts and the early attention she paid to me. I have just broken up with her again, after she said there were two couples coming down from Toronto she really wanted me to meet and also her old significant other was coming up and staying at her house, and they were all going out together. I thought it would be great to meet them all...she said I wasn't invited!!! That was it...broke up with her last Sunday...not the actions of a woman that loves me, is it??? But strangely enough, I still wish she'd call....stupid, right? She said it was right we broke up, because we are too different. I too did a lot of research on the net and confronted her with HPD. She said it was me...not her, that had the problem, and her gorlfriends all thought I was BiPolar!!! Hee...not hardly. I have been tortured so much over the last three months that i can't even contemplate dating anyone else. Oh well, I just needed to vent...I'll bet she'll give it a couple of weeks and try to seduce me again. I know how everyone on this site feels, and I can relate.[/color]

i like this old post...'has she got hpd?' as well as the follow-up responses to it...and of course, ray's essay...'lady with histrionic...i think they are both on page 3...

I need your opinion on whether you think the person described below has HPD. I went out with her for a week, after her relentless pursuit of me through open flirting/seductive behaviour... but once we got together, it all started falling apart, and finally I ended it.

Here's her description:

(i) Excessively flirtatious / sexually seductive
- before we got together, she'd come up to me, give me hugs, sit close to me, or say openly sexual stuff like "please satisfy me" or "please abuse me". At one time, she even jumped on top of me while I was sitting down.
- after I ended it, we were both at a club and she started flirting with all the men there, probably to make me jealous. She started dancing on their lap and flinging her body at them.
- she's also flirted with several other men in front of me (before we got together), saying things like "take me to a bush"
- she talks about sex all the time.. it's like she's obsessed with it. yet once we got together and kissed, she had a hang-up about it and blamed me for 'forcing her', when i did nothing of the sort.

(ii) extremely jealous / envious
- she's jealous of the fact that I went to a better university than her.
- she once got really jealous, I mean really green, when she saw me enjoying a chat with a girl at a party.
- she gets very jealous if she finds that I'm meeting up with friends. it's as if she doesn't wish me to have any friends at all.

(iii) Attention-seeking behaviour
- immediately before we got together I had started ignoring her... so she came up to me once and started saying things like: 'why aren't u showing me affection'... and even 'please why can't u abuse me' ; she succeeded
- in one of our classes on ethics, she created this drama about some of the principles we were discussing... she was the centre of attention there.
- she's always happy and bubbling with dramatic talk when she's in a group of 4-5 men and is the centre of attention; she suddenly clams up, stops talking, when there's a (pretty) girl there as well.

(iv) Impressionistic thought / speech
- she has really strong opinions, but they seem to have no basis. She also seems to have this ability to adopt strong opinions about subjects she has no knowledge of. Once she expressed an opinion about something in a really assertive and dramatic way, as if it were a cause dear to her 'heart'... when i asked her why she felt that we, she had nothing to say... i asked her what's the basis for her opinion and she laughed: "my ass".
- she once said boxing is better than yoga because its "more substantial".

(v) Overly dramatic
- she has a reputation for this among everyone.. even when she's saying a simple hello .. her speech and manner is overly dramatic.

(vi) Sarcastic
- while i was with her for a week she'd be extremely sarcastic, taking all sorts of digs at me... she's often the same with other people and seems enjoys hurting others.

(vii) Weird emotions
- she always looks weird. one minute she's happy, smiling, bubbly, and enthusiastic and the second she's sad, as if she's just failed all her exams. i've observed this many times... she also has this blank stare which is kind of scary.
- she is a master of the art of flattery... often it wasn't difficult to see that whatever nice things she was spewing out were just fake.

by **paradox** » Sat Nov 11, 2006 5:46 pm

digital: you're right about the nazi's, but they didn't stop there. They actually sterilised them too.
(not a very nice thing to do, although i find it extremely easy to come up with a list of my own :twisted:

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-a classic! Re-mastered !

-a classic! Re-mastered !

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