Trying to diagnose HPD/NPD in female

What are the chances of getting this girl back into my life (against pretty much EVERYBODY's reccomendation)?

What would be a good strategy?

you could probably have her back in your life right now if you magically could make yourself have no feelings for her and be her buddy, pal, a purely platonic friend. all you would have to do is call her up and right away she would sense the change in your voice (that you no longer had romantic feelings for her) and she would want to hang out with you as a friend or she might even have her feelings for you re-ignited.

but, i know and you know that is not how you really feel. you can't be friends with her without feeling hurt, and that is totally natural. if you can stand being hurt all the time call her up. but, be prepared because she will not change, ever. until years down the road when she has to stop and take into account her actions...or she decompensates (falls apart).

I haven't heard from her in a month, should I expect to?

you might hear from her, you might not. there is no real way to gage that question. it's hard to predict.

Is this typical HPD behavior? I expected some contact by now.

very typical...once they feel that the intial spark of intrigue and spontanaiety is gone...so are their original excited feelings about the connection. once there is any sort of expectation or commitment or expected predictable loyalty...she gets bored and she feels caged in. simple as that. no real other way around that.

She saw a friend of mine last week and asked about me. He told her I was doing well. She said that we had "had a fight" and "weren't talking". I find this strange since the truth really is that it's over (I think). What would be the purpose of characterizing it to my friend that way?

ummm, sounds to me like now that the relationship has wandered into the serious zone that she has become disinterested as the original exciting, fresh, new spark and unpredictablity is gone. please, don't take this personal. i know it is easier said than done.

you are not alone. hpd's do this to everyone. as to what she said to your friend...she probably said this because it was the first thing that came out of her mouth, or she wanted to look innocent in front of them or maybe she wants to keep options open with you. but, it's not like your her ideal. she knows you are available...meaning if she begged you'd take her back. you're conquered. she will only give herself over to the unconquerable.

What might happen to a girl like this? (26, low paying job, returning to school for apparently unrealistic objectives, huge fan club - so she says, very attractive - to me anyway, engaging in Christian based counseling, seeking God, etc.)

Do you suppose she'll find a happy realtionship, or continue these shallow realtionships with "friends" as she calls them. Perhaps have a failed marriage or 3?

Is she really somewhat of a sociopathic female, or just a spoiled immature self centered brat that might grow up?

i guarantee you she is attractive to a lot of people, looks are not what makes hpd's attractive. it is their intense charisma, seduction/manipulations. before most know it they are hooked.

as for shallow relationships...they will continue. go to google, enter the word histrionic and click on search...shallow will come up inside every link. the shallowness of hpd's it their most distinguishable trait.

as for changing...without intensive soul searching, sincere focused efforts on her part to change and serious counseling she WILL NOT change. she is unable to have anything beyond shallow unless it is with the unattainable. she will continue to be shallow for life.

she sounds to me like the disingenuous style of hpd...but time will tell...chances are though you know whether someone is hpd or not. it is a gut feeling, you just know...