HOW DOES HISTRIONIC PERSONALITY DISORDER DEVELOP

I REMEMBER LEARNING IN A PSYCHOLOGY CLASS I TOOK IN COLLEGE THAT I RESULTS FROM A FAILURE OF THE BRAIN TO DEVELOP CORRECTLY DUE TO (I) SOME TRAUMA EARLY ON IN A CHILD'S FORMATIVE YEARS OR (II) A GENETIC PREDISPOSITION THAT IS TRIGGERED MY SOME LIFE EVENT.

I ALSO THINK I REMEMBER HEARING THAT CERTAIN LIFE EVENTS, IF THEY OCCUR EARLY ENOUGH IN THE CHILD'S LIFE, CAN CORRECT THE DISORDER.

ANY THOUGHTS (KONTROLLERx OR OTHERS)?

I THINK I MAY HAVE HISTRIONIC TENDENCIES, BUT I DONT THINK I SUFFER FROM THE DISORDER. I SEEM TO BE ABLE TO MAINTAIN FRIENDSHIPS AND LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS, BUT I DO FIND MYSELF TO LIE AND MANIPULATE TO GET WHAT I WANT (AND SOMETIMES FOR REASONS I DO NOT EVEN KNOW MYSELF.) HOWEVER, I HAVE A CIRCLE OF FRIEND THAT HAVE KNOWN ME FOR YEARS AND ALTHOUGH I AM OFTEN CALLED A DRAMA QUEENA, "EVIL" (JOKINGLY...I THINK), AND SOMETIMES HAVE BEEN CALLED SELFISH AND NUEROTIC, I DO ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS.

"ANY THOUGHTS (KONTROLLERx OR OTHERS)?

I think your first order of business should be letting go of the caps lock key.

Anyway though it seems that post traumatic stress disorder occurring in a child before their brain can handle such a condition properly is one of the possible causes of the Cluster B Personality Disorders so you are correct on that.

As for turning the tables on the disorder in youth so it doesn't become full blown and rigidly unchanging the parental guardians would either have to be changed to loving ones by the child being removed from irresponsible parents or the child's parents suddenly waking up to their child's problem taking an intense genuine interest in making sure they grow up with all the love they need and then the disorder may be averted.

Still on that working anyone's guess is just as good as mine.

So many different factors can come together to form these disorders its hard to pinpoint what exactly caused it in the first place.

If it was just how the person was born then no matter how much love is given in childhood likely wouldn't help them recover from the disorder and instead would require therapy and a willingness to change.

"I THINK I MAY HAVE HISTRIONIC TENDENCIES, BUT I DONT THINK I SUFFER FROM THE DISORDER. I SEEM TO BE ABLE TO MAINTAIN FRIENDSHIPS AND LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS, BUT I DO FIND MYSELF TO LIE AND MANIPULATE TO GET WHAT I WANT (AND SOMETIMES FOR REASONS I DO NOT EVEN KNOW MYSELF.) HOWEVER, I HAVE A CIRCLE OF FRIEND THAT HAVE KNOWN ME FOR YEARS AND ALTHOUGH I AM OFTEN CALLED A DRAMA QUEENA, "EVIL" (JOKINGLY...I THINK), AND SOMETIMES HAVE BEEN CALLED SELFISH AND NUEROTIC, I DO ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS."

You probably just have the Histrionic Personality style which is healthy.

Unless of course you find yourself engaging in distraction rich activities like drug and alcohol abuse or anything that would take your mind off deep internal emotional crisis when it shows up for whatever reason rather than confronting and dealing with it maturely, appropriately and responsibly.

That is a good question, nobody seems to have a definitive answer. There are lots of conflicting/general answers though. I personally find it to be directly related to excessive amounts of ALL CAPS. Just my opinion. Seriously though, it doesn't sound like you have it too bad. Until you aquire the taste for freshly shredded souls you should be in the clear.

I don't really enjoy the feeling of hurting others. But I do enjoy having men pine for me. I tease them and sometimes, lead them on, and I kow it is wrong, but I sometimes get caught up in the moment and take it too far. But I think wanting attention just makes me a red-blooded woman - who doesn't like to have others pine after them?

I have also fallen out of love with past boyfriends, but I usually try to let them down easy and try to remain friends. One problem I have recently admitted to is that I rush into relationships because I can't stand to be alone, and I do no break them off until I have another suitor lined up and ready to go. I tend to get bored after a while. And because of this, I have never actually been 100% faithful in any of my previous relationships. I dont think I am HPD (as the thread I have read seem to show HPDs to far more dramatic and irrational than me), but I wonder if there is something else wrong with me.

your most recent post sounds like something my ex would say in the early stage of our relationship when I was wondering about her colorful past relationships. My only question would be: Is this really the truth or is it just what you want to believe is the truth.

Follow up question: can you even tell the difference.

Follow up statement to follow up question: If you were an HPD I would probably be wasting my breath asking these questions of you.

I don't really enjoy the feeling of hurting others. But I do enjoy having men pine for me. I tease them and sometimes, lead them on, and I kow it is wrong, but I sometimes get caught up in the moment and take it too far. But I think wanting attention just makes me a red-blooded woman - who doesn't like to have others pine after them?

yes, we all like others to pine for us. but, not unless we are pining after them as well. at times it is nice to have others (that we don't like) pining after us. but, after a while it is not fun. keeping up the appearance of liking someone when you don't is not fun. first of all because faking it is a lot of work and why do it if you are not recieving enjoyment. you however do enjoy recieving attention from those you don't really like or are not really all that attracted to. you are after narccistic supply! people simply fuel your engine. their faces, lives, interests are not important to you, at all. in fact when it gets down to it you don't really like people at all. if you did you wouldn't manipulate them. argue that all you like. but, it's a simple fact!!!

you are not a normal red blooded women. 95% of women are not like you. believe me. hpd's are a seperate animal...because of a few important commonly related facts.

1) hpd's feign interest to recieve attention=faking care and concern=manipulating the most vulnerable part of others=cruel=no mature level of conscience=hpd

2) when you do 'like' someone=you lose interest quickly=you are bored=hpd

3) you don't break off with a man until you have another lined up=use others to fill your own void=little care for past or current man=treat people like expendable 'objects'=hpd

4) you want to keep past boyfriends as friends=you want to keep broken-hearted panting dogs around you to fill your fragile ego=hpd

5) you get bored easily=hpd=sociopathic trait=hpd

6) you are not 100% faithful (whatever that means)=little loyalty=little honesty=hpd

7) your outward actions DO NOT match your inner intentions=you are really a manipulator=but, your outward appearance is harmless=you do not reveal who you really are until the minute your prey is hooked=hpd

you act like a pimp. you play the pimp game. build someone up with false charm and then pull the rug out from under them. the only thing is pimps usually are brave enough to dress and act the part so most people know who/what they are dealing with. but, most hpd's act extra nice and kind and sensitive and sweet. if only hpd's insides matched their outsides. they would be SO UGLY!!!

I have also fallen out of love with past boyfriends.

you were never in love with them. most hpd's never fall in love until they meet their saviour. the one man who will never show them love. the cold, emotionless, personality-less, droid-like machine man who will not show a crack of emotion on his face or in his actions. yuck! keep looking. you'll find him. you'll battle for a long time. you'll scream out to the world that you are finally in love. you'll exaggerate that -- like you do everything else. then, if you don't end up killing eachother, one of you will leave the other and you'll both look older than your years (like sh*t basically). but, he will always remain 'your one true love'. that's what you'll tell all who will listen for the rest of your life! how sick is that?

but I usually try to let them down easy and try to remain friends. One problem I have recently admitted to is that I rush into relationships because I can't stand to be alone, and I do no break them off until I have another suitor lined up and ready to go. I tend to get bored after a while. And because of this, I have never actually been 100% faithful in any of my previous relationships. I dont think I am HPD (as the thread I have read seem to show HPDs to far more dramatic and irrational than me), but I wonder if there is something else wrong with me.

you are an hpd! sad for you...

I disagree for the following reasons:

I had a great childhood with wonderful parents. I had no traumatic experience as a child which would lead my development of a disorder.

The men I lead on are usually men I am attracted to, so its not like I just like attention from those that I have no interest in. Everyone wants to know that others find them attractive. Most girls are guilty of leading on boys. Its called flirting, and sometimes, teasing. If this makes me an HPD, it makes a lot more than 1-2% of the population HPDs.

I dont have cold, heartless breakups. I have cried (for days) over my breakups. I hate doing it and I usually do them because it is no longer fair to keep the relationship going. I admit that it hurts more to be broken up with, but I think this is true for most people.
I think I try to stay friends with my exes not because I want to keep panting dogs around, but because I am sorry that I fell out of love with them. From what I have read, this isnt a very HPD thing to do.

But, I have heard enough commentary (some of it harsh!) and I think I will get checked out by a shrink.

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mindmyownbiz- Mostly I am grateful that you will go to get checked out. The world thanks you..your future potential victims thank you-
- go and don't stop going when you start thinking the therapist is stupid or worthless. 'Drama queen' to me is a nice way of saying..you're a self-absorbed biotch that is annoying but ..well for now you are 'FUN!" to be around...but wiht age....most of us adults aren't looking for "Just Fun" ..and want a predictable, reliable person who is stable and loving...not the flirty ho. Flirting at any age over 16 must be done with care and not very often unless you have intentions. Your ego should know that you are 'attractive' you shouldn't need to seek approval from men.. ..come on- men are so easy anyways--what's the challenge?
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so mindmyownbusiness....

i'm not saying that you have hpd, (certainly get it checked out ... thats a good idea), but what brought you here in the first place anyway? you obviously were suspicious of yourself about something.

give a little more detail rather than a general overview. maybe someone here has had similar experiences.

you said ... I had a great childhood with wonderful parents. I had no traumatic experience as a child which would lead my development of a disorder.
.... maybe something as simple as being the youngest of brothers or sisters, always having attention and maybe playing up to that attention and loving it ... and then at some point for some reason that attention was disrupted or taken away which left you feeling like you were neglected ..... or something like that.

Everyone is different and people react to their own situations differently. Maybe you were/are an extremely sensitive person and the feeling of being neglected in some way was traumatic for you?