HPD Girlfriend ! Please advise me on how I should handle her

by **david1978** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 9:37 pm

Greetings everyone,

Its such a relief to finally find a forum to communicate with people who are able to relate to me. She fits the diagnosis for HPD. Additionaly, I have noticed how she tries to manipulate my emotions seeking a desired response. At the moment, as I am tired of her games and I have decided not to contact her for a week and she hasnt attempted to contact me either.

Question is, should I continue with this position. Undoubtedly if I do Im sure that before long the relationship will soon be over. What game do you think she is playing - hard to get, or just plain finished with me.

What should be my next course of action?

Thanks alot !

David

Dave, mate, she isn't playing any game. It is much more serious than that. It may seem like a game, but wait until she starts losing, you'll see. Normal girls play games with emotional blackmail and such, but HPD-girls...they are fighting a war. As such you have two options with her, beat her at her own game (time consuming, not easy but very verysatisfying) or surrender and go play elsewhere. Also, you can just refuse to bother and leave, but I wouldn't recommend that.

by **goldendragon** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 7:58 am

Run, head for the hills, escape while you can. Unless you derive some kind of pleasure in mind games- with no winners, get away from this person.

If you really love her, then you may have different concerns, but that does not seem to be the case( from what you have said)..Find yourself a normal girl! If you are attracted to her because of the mind games, may I suggest therapy :lol:

by **david1978** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 9:04 am

@ Digitial

Thanks for insight into the enemy - I didnt even know she had declared war!

I will beat her at her own game, but since she still enjoys giving her phone numbers out to strange men over the internet and making false promises and that she wants to meet up wiv em - my love interest has seriously diminished. Also this girl is obbessed with joining every social networking websites she can e.g Blebo. etc!

@ Golden Dragon

Your intuition is correct I do not love her (anymore). Ive only been dating her for about 3 weeks so easy come easy go! Although she did genuinely fall 'in love' with me,(or 'in infatuation') thats one thing no HPD can fake.

Before we started dating dating I know her for about another 3 weeks and now I reflect on the conversations we had previously Im amazed to realise the amount of #######4 she came out with its unreal!

Next question, I dont want to date her anymore but should I take the initiative to dump her and get in there before she does, save my honour and dignity! Personally, I just feel like walking away into the hills and never bothering to contact her again.

by **spiralingconfusion** » Sun Oct 22, 2006 10:21 pm

Well, if you want to stick it to her, dump her.

If you want to just be rid of her, make her think think she dumped you. This option may require more effort than the former. (You may not be interested in putting forth such effort to someone who screwed you over, but in the long run, it may be better for you)

by PQ » Mon Oct 23, 2006 2:31 am

digital.noface wrote:Dave, mate, she isn't playing any game. It is much more serious than that. It may seem like a game, but wait until she starts losing, you'll see. Normal girls play games with emotional blackmail and such, but HPD-girls...they are fighting a war. As such you have two options with her, beat her at her own game (time consuming, not easy but very verysatisfying) or surrender and go play elsewhere. Also, you can just refuse to bother and leave, but I wouldn't recommend that.

By surrender, you mean give in and kiss her ass until she loses interest?

by **digital.noface** » Mon Oct 23, 2006 2:47 pm

Kane wrote:By surrender, you mean give in and kiss her ass until she loses interest?

More or less. Also follow up with letting her know how she was the love of your life and stuff post-break-up. So she won't come back. Hassle her to get back together. Then when she is completely repulsed by you, slowly drop off and slip away.

I personally wouldn't do it this way, but it should work.

by **digital.noface** » Mon Oct 23, 2006 2:50 pm

spiralingconfusion wrote:Well, if you want to stick it to her, dump her.

If you want to just be rid of her, make her think think she dumped you. This option may require more effort than the former. (You may not be interested in putting forth such effort to someone who screwed you over, but in the long run, it may be better for you)

Actually, I disagree, I think dumping her wqoutright will end up taking much more effort than fooling her into thinking she dumped you. Even beating her at her own game is easier than dealing with a woman whose concept of self-worth is based upon her success at making you take her back. An HPD scorned is worse than any catchy quip Shakespeare could think of. Especially if they have NPD tendancies.

by **spiralingconfusion** » Mon Oct 23, 2006 3:30 pm

digital.noface wrote:An HPD scorned is worse than any catchy quip Shakespeare could think of. Especially if they have NPD tendancies.

Interesting...perhaps, then, I am playing with fire in my latest games with my ex-HPD. I have not heard from her for almost 48 hours. But I suspect she is just trying to hold out and will break soon. Either way...I dont think I am going to respond. I am interested to see just how deeply diseased she is.

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by **SenseAtLast** » Tue Oct 24, 2006 8:46 am

digital.noface wrote:
Kane wrote:By surrender, you mean give in and kiss her ass until she loses interest?
More or less. Also follow up with letting her know how she was the love of your life and stuff post-break-up. So she won't come back. Hassle her to get back together. Then when she is completely repulsed by you, slowly drop off and slip away.

I personally wouldn't do it this way, but it should work.

Unerringly accurate. I did exactly that. and it worked a treat.

Of course, at the time she had just dumped me, and I was cut to shreds, and I was trying to get her back.

HPD Girlfriend ! Please advise me on how I should handle her

HPD Girlfriend ! Please advise me on how I should handle her

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