What does she have ?-2

Hi! I am not trying to recreate the controversy which led to the original topic being locked, but merely continuing on my personal quest for the truth, peace and light.

I plan to speak to my wife's parents and impress upon them the seriousness of what she has.. Whether it be ASPD, HPD or a combo.
They do not seem to have grasped the situation and are treating it more or less like a serious marital dispute. One thing which I wanted to ask people who especially have a formal clinical background is that the first time when I met my wife's psychologist, she told me that my wife can be "socialised". Every time I pressed to ask if she is ASPD, she merely said that she is not a psychopath- which thanks to this forum among other sources, I realise is not the same.

Does the use of the word socialise( she said this many times) mean ASPD ? Why do I have to read between the lines- it looks like she, being retained by my in-laws are more in a hurry to save the marriage- which seems to me to be pretty silly. If you really need to know the reasons which I feel so- she was trying to explain away things(When I told her about the lack of remorse in my wife's call when she called after running away, she told me that the calls took place in front of her- when I know for a fact that she was not even consulted till a few days later- I brought this up with her and she had to concede.Trying to get me to buy lies which my wife told her- like she had multiple phones, to flirt with people to protect herself and she always changed the mobile phone numbers- this is partly true- she had multiple phones- but she was not discreet. Her boyfriends had my mobile number, my home numbers as well and these phones were used to make and receive calls).They( her parents)really need to save their daughter- before they even thing of saving the marriage- which is anyway on life support anyway.

your thoughts ?

There is no treating it.

You think she has ASPD, there's an ASPD catagory...go post your question there. She dosent have it anyway. Or maybe she dose but you havent provided enough reasoning for a diagnosis....which knowone here is qualified to make anyway.

You think she is a HPD, Like i said before, leave her or willingly suffer. You cant help someone unless they want help.

Here is what it comes down to, if she was a sociopath she wouldnt have much issue with herself, and there is no treatment for those who havent already broken law's and even for those who do get treatment the success rate is a small percentage. They are capable of love (theory) yet not empathy....so she can love you just not put herself in your shoes and understand how she is effecting you (its only about her and how you effect her). Of course she's not a psychopath....if she was odd's are you wouldnt be alive right now, or she'd be in prison for something else. They have absolutly NO impulse control and while sociopaths are more then capable of violence psychopaths use violence freely and often. Which is why there arent many, they either get killed, kill themselves or kill someone else and end up in prisons.

She can have antisocial personality traits which many people have and dont even know. Or she can have an antisocial personality disorder in which case an MRI should be able to show some damage to the frontal lobe.

good advice