So to cut a long story short my HPD was told by me to f*** off because he had been such a loser in bed and that I have been doing it for the money anyway, never wanted his old wrinkly disgusting & miserable self who never deserved the Queen (moi).
That was pretty much after a break of 13 months and him pestering me (no reply from me, of course) and him calling to wish me happy birthday last week.
I would love to hear your take on the situation - how does he feel now?
What is he going to do?
PS. He's married so I don't really expect stalking full time.
Our partner
Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
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Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by PoshBird » Sat Aug 09, 2014 6:31 pm
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by PoshBird » Sun Aug 10, 2014 8:00 am
Ooops, so HPDs don't actually like being rejected judging by the silence here.
I see, so it's 1:0 for me then
Poor fella, he probably just started to fancy my wicked self for the first time now.
I see, so it's 1:0 for me then
Poor fella, he probably just started to fancy my wicked self for the first time now.
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by nom0re » Sun Aug 10, 2014 10:19 am
You sound like a sweet, totally non-vindictive girl and the poor fellow is probably going to take the rejection realllly hard.
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by PoshBird » Sun Aug 10, 2014 10:46 am
Oh, I WAS sweet but he started to play head games so I had to fight him.
If he were a non-HPD he would run away but I thought HPDs get a kick from debasement no????????
If he were a non-HPD he would run away but I thought HPDs get a kick from debasement no????????
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by nom0re » Sun Aug 10, 2014 10:57 am
PoshBird wrote:Oh, I WAS sweet but he started to play head games so I had to fight him.
If he were a non-HPD he would run away but I thought HPDs get a kick from debasement no????????
(think this should move to significant others forum, but anyway).
First of all, 'fighting' will most likely be counter-productive. You can't win, because even negative emotional supply is supply (and judging from the tone of your post, it is vindictive).
Second, and, this is what i read here personally recently and what made sense to me. The more disordered will be in denial and bury any negative consequences (narcicistic injury) by looking for new supply. Definitely he/she will NOT show his/her true deeper emotions. And basically that is what you desire. To see that it 'matters' to him. All i'm saying you will never ever see the true self in this situation. So again, you can't win.
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by PoshBird » Sun Aug 10, 2014 11:19 am
If you move it to the nons forum it will not make sense since they will not know how a HPD behaves in such a situtation - only a HPD can - but I won't object to that.
You answered it quite well - of course a new supply is in order, probably now - I know that and it doesn't bother me - I even 'allowed' him (as a narcicisst) to do so.
But I still wanted to see him wounded (internally) - but if you say it is not possible since there is no self or core to wound then it's fine with me.
As a narcicisst for me internally the win is on my side - since I am the one with true feelings and humanity and he is a robot.
You answered it quite well - of course a new supply is in order, probably now - I know that and it doesn't bother me - I even 'allowed' him (as a narcicisst) to do so.
But I still wanted to see him wounded (internally) - but if you say it is not possible since there is no self or core to wound then it's fine with me.
As a narcicisst for me internally the win is on my side - since I am the one with true feelings and humanity and he is a robot.
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by xdude » Sun Aug 10, 2014 1:22 pm
A couple of thoughts -
First, there is definitely some grey area in what gets moved into SOF&F vs remains here when it comes to questions about the disorder. Since this is a primarily a question about the disorder (versus primarily about how the SO is affected), I'm good with it being here so long as those with HPD are treated with respect.
Second...
Having NPD issues myself, and having been in a relationship with someone with HPD, this is a difficult dynamic, and discussing that dynamic (unfortunately) doesn't fit well into any forum, not the NPD forum, not the HPD forum, not the SOF&F forum. I guess my briefly worded thought is that for both types, when they feel backed into a corner, both types will fight back, just that they'll salvage their self-esteem in somewhat different ways.
First, there is definitely some grey area in what gets moved into SOF&F vs remains here when it comes to questions about the disorder. Since this is a primarily a question about the disorder (versus primarily about how the SO is affected), I'm good with it being here so long as those with HPD are treated with respect.
Second...
Having NPD issues myself, and having been in a relationship with someone with HPD, this is a difficult dynamic, and discussing that dynamic (unfortunately) doesn't fit well into any forum, not the NPD forum, not the HPD forum, not the SOF&F forum. I guess my briefly worded thought is that for both types, when they feel backed into a corner, both types will fight back, just that they'll salvage their self-esteem in somewhat different ways.
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by crystal_richardson_ » Sun Aug 10, 2014 6:37 pm
a Queen doesn't need to sleep with people for money...
talk about compensatory narcissism girl...
talk about compensatory narcissism girl...
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by PoshBird » Sun Aug 10, 2014 6:59 pm
Why so judgemental Crystal? Does he remind you of someone?
Every girl wants a rich guy who buys gifts (although he was mean) - not paying money as in sleeping for money.
Since he is probably with no soul it did not hurt him anyway - he has been sleeping with half of Europe himself as a true HPDs so who has loose morals here?
he was such a robot in the bed department I should have asked for compensation.
I asked now but he got mad
Every girl wants a rich guy who buys gifts (although he was mean) - not paying money as in sleeping for money.
Since he is probably with no soul it did not hurt him anyway - he has been sleeping with half of Europe himself as a true HPDs so who has loose morals here?
he was such a robot in the bed department I should have asked for compensation.
I asked now but he got mad
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Re: Rejection - how do HPDs take it?
by crystal_richardson_ » Sun Aug 10, 2014 7:55 pm
my impression is you do this for a living.
I am not being judgemental.
I just don't think it's queen-like...did he buy you gifts?
are you married to him? etc..
I am not being judgemental.
I just don't think it's queen-like...did he buy you gifts?
are you married to him? etc..
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