I can't tell you how many disagreements my ex and i would have that started out feeling like a normal disagreement that quickly escalated into her raging and calling me crazy. I pretty much always was left standing there going, wtf just happened here.
Basically it would go something like this, genrally when i would question her about somethign and ask her a direct question:
Me (in a normal tone of voice): Well, if you said you were going to call at such and such hour then why didn't you?
Her(voice raised): There's that smart ass attitude you always have!
Me(same tone): What smart ass attitude. I was just asking a question.Lets talk about it.
Her(louder): OH MY GOD!! YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!!!
Me(feeling puzzled): No, i really don't. Why don't you calm down and let's talk about it, I'm just asking a question.
Her(yelling): Quit yelling at me!!! This is the $#%^ I am talking about!! You are crazy. F*** you!!
At this point I am about ready to put her head through the wall and she winds up hanging up on me if we are on the phone or leaving if we are together. This is almost always the case when i am questioning her about her actions or things she is doing has done in general. She starts spinning it around like i am the ass and calling me crazy. Basically to avoid any direct questions. But it is crazy to me that she says i am screaming at her when i am clearly speaking in a normal tone. But when i ask her to stop yelling she tells me to f*** off. Also any conversations that have any meaning ot them have always taken place over text message. I find that odd. she prefers resolving problems, flirting, all that stuff via text. I told her i think that is childish and of course she would get pissed. Anyhoo, any of this sound familiar to anyone?