They make you go insane

Alethiea has me pegged...plus, because of their charming traits and ability to mirror you, one tends to get "sucked in" before you are aware of it. It's been 3 months now since I've been out of the relationship, and I must say I am grateful for all the help from the folks on this site. And yes, I do feel sorry for HPD's...they didn't ask for the circumstances that led them to their plight. Mine thought she was normal, although she admitted she had "demons" to deal with.

Alethiea wrote:The type of man who is attracted to women like us?

Intelligent (enjoys the complexity of the relationship). Compassionate (able to give). Kind. Funny. Good-looking. Has a wild streak of his own (sympathetic to ours). Profoundly loyal. Ecletic tastes. Competitive. Usually a high achievere, somewhat driven.

Not all bad.

(So, did I get it right?)

A man that is prone to get involved with a hp. is trying to return to a place that never can be.His emotions are triggerd by the coquettes dance the push the pull the ability to keep one off balance.Thus the rejection triggers the feelings of rejection of ones childhood usually from the mother.Bottom line the male plays the same script he grew up with hoping for a happy ending, he is trying to save his mother who was emotionally unavailable .He is a night rescuer,a savior(or so he thinks) but in reality he also has issues .Do the work study the truth shall set you free .I say God bless us everyone,or was that tiny Tim

Not just the mother Larry but often times both the parents.

Its more specifically called intermittent reinforcement where you are shown love if you do a task your parents want you to.

You are not shown love all of the time or made aware that your parents always love you.

Only when you do what they want.

This is the kind of upbringing I had to an extent as well as others who fell deeply in love with their HPD's.

We were chasing an evil system of control looking for love.

No more, no less.

Yes I believe you are right,in my case also my Father did play a part in the evil system as you say(most likely the same one they were raised in). I am only starting my journey of self discovery and appreciate the feedback and any other info you can share. I have already accepted the fact my parents fell short and Im sure I did to as a parent.But the thing that pisses me off is the fact its taken me this long to find this out and how it has affected my life.Better late though........I am sharing everything I am learning with my children to break the cycle. Knowledge is power ignorance bliss but with the power comes an awesome responsibility I believe.Thanks for the feed back lets hear from you again and others please share your stories. Larry

sincefour wrote:"Guest"

On behalf of the "nuts" I am not so sure I care for that comment.

After all, it's OK if black people call each other "n", but for a white person to do it is not cool.

You might not be "nuts", but you do seem to be lacking in some key social grace or three.

W

Seems a tad racist to me. Ok for blacks to slag each other off but not whites. Step into the real world.

OH YEH IT IS A NUTFORUM get over it.

KX, RCD hey been about 6 months now since i have been here. You need to attach mirrors to your computers and then you would see there is a big world out there thats not in the computer and you two could join in it. I did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Still going on about the HPD, well i agree something about the character of a person that is drawn towards A HPD personality. Something that is weak and allows them to be used and stepped on. Go out and find a nice lady you two. Stop hiding in your cabin in the woods.

Hey KX still see your slagging everyones opinion off. Good for you.


If i was HPD i would hate the way i would be treated on here instead of being welcomed and maybe even supported.
Oh dear you were used and upset by your GF's wern't we all at some point in our lives. You got with dogs tough luck. aint we all.


Jamo

No tuff luck, good luck finding the truth and dealing with my own crapola not blaming anyone. making coments with the deepest regard for everyone in this human race. I am amazed how as finite beings we can all at times be so screwed up. I think it was Job that said "Man is but a few moments and full of trouble" Best regards to hps and nons as you make your way . Larry

On behalf of the "nuts" I am not so sure I care for that comment.

After all, it's OK if black people call each other "n", but for a white person to do it is not cool.

You might not be "nuts", but you do seem to be lacking in some key social grace or three.

W

Seems a tad racist to me. Ok for blacks to slag each other off but not whites. Step into the real world.

What are you talking about? The real world. I got voluntarily bussed into Boston in 1974 from the white burbs. Played cards for money with black men, played hoops at Boston City Hospital with lots of "brothers". Dated a divorced black women too. You don't know what you are talking about.

Of all the boards I frequent here, I have found the highest count of biased and clueless "people" right here - in HPD - like a little pitter patter stomp of your heart at the hands of someone gives you the right to stomp back on anyone - even people you don't know. You should stop telling people how to live and come to grips with your own limitations "jack".

W

"KX, RCD hey been about 6 months now since i have been here. You need to attach mirrors to your computers and then you would see there is a big world out there thats not in the computer and you two could join in it. I did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Yes apparently so considering you still come here and read all the posts and still have time to say hello to me your best friend in the whole world KontrollerX jammerman old buddy.

"Still going on about the HPD, well i agree something about the character of a person that is drawn towards A HPD personality. Something that is weak and allows them to be used and stepped on. Go out and find a nice lady you two. Stop hiding in your cabin in the woods."

Haha, plenty of people have actually pmed me and suggested you were a fullblown Anti Social Personality Disordered sociopath jammerman. I disagreed with em and said nah this guy is probably just an HPD but they insisted you were an ASPD and ya know they may of had a point as ASPD's justification for doing what they do to people is that the other person was weak and well you just mentioned that as a reason why you think nons can be so easily victimized by HPD's. Interesting jamo old buddy but I think I'll hold to my view of you being HPD and not ASPD. You're just far too entertaining, dramatic and non methodical to be a fullblown ASPD sociopath.

"Hey KX still see your slagging everyones opinion off. Good for you."

LOL, jammerman you've never once ceased to be a laugh riot thats for sure.

"If i was HPD i would hate the way i would be treated on here instead of being welcomed and maybe even supported.
Oh dear you were used and upset by your GF's wern't we all at some point in our lives. You got with dogs tough luck. aint we all."

Nah, you'd thrive on the drama of all the hate which you are doing now. Well at least the hate you perceive exists.

I wish

ASPD yeh yeh.

Nah, you'd thrive on the drama of all the hate which you are doing now. Well at least the hate you perceive exists.

Do i believe there is hate (strong word mate) geared towards HPD's by you. Well er yes Duh!!!

Yes apparently so considering you still come here and read all the posts and still have time to say hello to me your best friend in the whole world KontrollerX jammerman old buddy.

You have in nearly the year i flick back and forth on here ever put anything substantial to HPD's (HPD victims yes).
So what i still look in. And................................

I have seen you post to people; you have HPD traits and should see a Psychatrist to get a diagnosis, then slag them down next (HPD's not that person). Even when a dianosed HPD came on here as a guest you slighted him and he left a very bitter posting and he never returned. Good for you me ole cock!

Do i like to put something in the post as a wind up. Yep i sure do you bleater's!!!

Am i HPD - who gives a $#%^!!!!!!!!!!

According to your remarks to a lady that i will try and quote:
Likes to make others laugh by joking all the time but does care for people etc etc. You told her she has a form or HPD. YOu are not a Psychologist so shut up!!!!
You and your friends (if any) must be hanging out at a wake to hang with you.

If you are normal thank christ i'm HPD.

And if i am HPD then this sight is for the: -
uncaring
unbalanced
cheating
lying
manipulative
Point of view.

Oh yeh, i aint lyed here, or cheated, or manipulated or given an unbalanced view. But most of all KY jelly i do care about the crap you write.
You have traits which i would look into.

Told you before, when i wrote on here argumentatively with starz i had downed a bottle of bourbon. Get the implication. yeh yeh HPD's are drunks (my force leaned more to the dark side).

Help the HPD's KX, help them, advise them and be kind to them. I have been on other sites and none is as uncaring as this site. There is immense help and understanding and support for the Victim as well as the person suffering from the affliction. We need to understand both sides of the fence to help each other. You are still after all this time a very angry individual. So how do you believe you can give unbiased help.
You seemed very intelligent to me. And a longtime ago when i believed i was HPD i probably would have turned to you for support. What a twat i was.

http://www.selfknowledge.com/10161.htm
http://discover-your-mind.co.uk/1ab%20- ... actn-4.htm

See ya's
All my love Jamo
P.s. See i do care about you

I recommend the book "Who is pulling your strings?- how to break the cycle of manipulation and regain control of your life"!

It talks about histrionics, narcisists, antisocials and other types of manipulative people. It helps you understand why you are manipulated, why, what to do.

This is your salvation!!