Pretty sure this is my mom

My parents never married because my father recognized the crazy in my mom right away. Growing up, I lived two days with my mom, two days with my dad, back and forth all the way until i got my driver license. Without declaring that i was "moving out", I just quit going to my moms and always stayed with my dad. My dad got married when i was 4 years old and remains married, his house was fairly stable. My mom, got married when i was 5, divorced when i was six, promised never to get married again until i was out of the house, got married again when i was 8 or 9, divorced again when i was 10 or 11, again promised not to date or get married until i was out of the house. The cycle continued, dating random guys, one time she told me she was pregnant (i didn't even know she was dating someone at the time) but that it would all be ok because my aunt (who at that point was living a great life) got pregnant before she was married too, and look at her now. A few weeks later she told me she miscarried. I never did meet the father. After i got my license, she moved in with a new guy and few months later called me up one morning before school saying she found drugs in the house and had to to get out. She moved out and a within a few months moved in with a new guy, who she was with for a year or two, and then found drugs in the house again and called me crying. She is now with another new guy who is "just a great guy", just like the 20 preceding him.

That was just a little of the background story. Somehow i knew from a very young age that there was something very wrong with my mom. She was constantly exaggerating everything, and i mean everything. There was never a sentence that she spoke that wasn't either a total exaggeration or simply a lie all together. She was and still is always big on claiming her "christianity" and feels the need to talk about these things until I affirm her. She is the same as she has always been.

I am 29 now and for the last 15 years I've been able to succesfully avoid her. I got married two years ago and my wife and i just had our first child and now the real battle is just beginning. She obviously wants to be super grandma to my daughter which means she wants to be around more often. I really cant stand to be around my mom, she makes my skin crawl everytime shes talking because it is always a lie. I differ from some people in the forum, because i'm really ok with any hurt she may have inflicted on me as a child, and i couldn't care less about having a relationship with her going forward. I just don't want to have to deal with her. But, I am her only child and this is her grandchild so i somehow have to learn to deal with her.

I can't even stand to look her in the eyes when she is talking. I've told myself time and time again, when she is here just look her in the eyes when she talks and treat her with respect, and time and time again i fail. If i start to act interested i can just see the excitement level rise and she will start talking more and more and start telling more and bigger lies. Everytime she leaves my house, my wife is left asking "how did you come from that, she makes up stories that i can't even believe someone could think up"

When she calls to get ahold of me, she will call my cellphone once or twice, and then leave a 2 minute voicemail, and then 20 seconds later send a text with the exact same thing she said in the voicemail and then call my work, and then call my house. This happens everytime she calls. So, I simply asked that she only do one thing to try and get a hold of me and I will get back to her. Well, as i figured, this has turned into a total drama fest about how i always give her the back seat to my dads family and my wifes family, and how i don't care about her, and how i don't realize how good of a mom she is, and on and on......

This has turned into a bit of a vent session, but i am just checking to see if she does infact sound like someone who has a disorder, and if anyone else has experienced any of the same things and how to deal with them.