I don't feel grief or loss...

I have never felt sad at the death of a family member or friend. I've never lost a member of my immediate family, but, for example, when my aunt died suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 30 I didn't really feel sad at all. Her parents/my parents were completely distraught. The whole family was in floods of tears at the funeral but I felt nothing. It wasn't that I didn't like her, but I don't understand why people get so upset at someone dying- I can imagine losing my parents or siblings and not feeling grief. Death just isn't something that upsets me- or at least, not on a personal level. I do get very angry about death as a result of social injustice and so on, but not as it relates directly to me. One other thing is that I get extremely paranoid about dying myself before I have a chance to succeed in life.
Does anyone else feel this same lack of emotion? Is there a name for it?
Thanks.

Hi,

Do not feel bad about this. I also did not cry or feel sad at the deaths of some relatives, but I think that it only signifies one thing: They simply did not feature strongly in our lives. In other words: we did not know them too well. When someone 'loves' someone else, their lives are intertwined to such an extent that the loss of either party is a real hard blow to the life of the other. It genuinely feels like something significant and important has been lost. So, I argue that your aunt, for example, was never a big part of your life. However, I also argue that if you did happen to lose something/one important to you, that you'd feel a big loss just as anyone else.

Some people ARE more emotional than others. Being emotional just results in greater social connections, but then also a greater sense of loss. If you are very much a solitary person, then it's likely you do'nt have many strong social connections.

Kevin