Close friend died of COVID-19

A close friend of mine died of COVID-19 and I'm still in shock. Back then, I haven't thought about death that much. I mean, I know it's real and it's gonna happen but I never thought it's gonna happen to someone I know that soon. I am so stressed. I feel like it could also happen to me anytime. I was just talking to my friend and now she's gone. Help! I don't know what to do. I've been having anxiety attacks.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Take your time to grief, will be my advice. And, if there is something like that in your country, try telephone counseling, or speak with friends and/or family or — I know nothing about anxiety attacks — seek professional counseling, if possible and necessary.

Hey, thanks for your responses. Yes, will do. Right now, I just want to cry. Moving on is a bit hard as I cannot go anywhere freely because of the restrictions. If not because of it, I'd go somewhere where I can... I dunno.. cry.. think.. breathe..

Hugs! I'm sorry to hear that. I've not lost someone to COVID, but it's come closer than I'd like it to have- did worry about one person for a while who contracted it, and is in a high-risk group. They've not quite been the same, since.

CammieMe wrote:Back then, I haven't thought about death that much. I mean, I know it's real and it's gonna happen but I never thought it's gonna happen to someone I know that soon. I am so stressed. I feel like it could also happen to me anytime.

Were they in the same age cohort as you? I remember the first time someone I knew that was my age, died- I didn't know them all that well, but we had played some together as children- they died in a car wreck. Amazingly, it was an open casket, and.. it was unnerving, to say the least. I must have been in my late twenties at the time, and well, we just don't die! I've always been a hypochondriac, and I always have some terrible disease (mostly cancer), but thinking about I'm going to die from this or that feared thing, and seeing someone my age laying in a casket for the first time, that I knew- well, it was surreal. It'll make you think.

CammieMe wrote:Right now, I just want to cry. Moving on is a bit hard as I cannot go anywhere freely because of the restrictions. If not because of it, I'd go somewhere where I can... I dunno.. cry.. think.. breathe..

Can you cry? When I lost my mother, I often felt weepy, without actually having the ability to cry deeply- it's hard to explain- easy to cry, but a long, headache-inducing, feeling as if you'd been beat up long hard pillow-soaking cry had frustratingly eluded me, and has ever since. Sometimes I think things hit us too hard to have a good cry.

Sorry about the restrictions- I'm increasingly impatient on behalf of people that are living under them- is there no where or nothing you can do to help you through this? This is denying your need to simply be human.

CammieMe wrote:Right now, I just want to cry.

Please let yourself do that . I lost my cousin to Covid and I still grieve for her and for her husband who ended his life 3 months after he lost her .

I'm sorry for your loss Cammie . Sending gentle hugs , if you want some .

If COVID hadn't existed, things would've been much easier. I'm just glad no-one in my life had COVID. It would be devastating for me if someone had. Take your time and grief. There'll be more people who will support you.

Snaga wrote:Hugs! I'm sorry to hear that. I've not lost someone to COVID, but it's come closer than I'd like it to have- did worry about one person for a while who contracted it, and is in a high-risk group. They've not quite been the same, since.

CammieMe wrote:Back then, I haven't thought about death that much. I mean, I know it's real and it's gonna happen but I never thought it's gonna happen to someone I know that soon. I am so stressed. I feel like it could also happen to me anytime.

Were they in the same age cohort as you? I remember the first time someone I knew that was my age, died- I didn't know them all that well, but we had played some together as children- they died in a car wreck. Amazingly, it was an open casket, and.. it was unnerving, to say the least. I must have been in my late twenties at the time, and well, we just don't die! I've always been a hypochondriac, and I always have some terrible disease (mostly cancer), but thinking about I'm going to die from this or that feared thing, and seeing someone my age laying in a casket for the first time, that I knew- well, it was surreal. It'll make you think.

CammieMe wrote:Right now, I just want to cry. Moving on is a bit hard as I cannot go anywhere freely because of the restrictions. If not because of it, I'd go somewhere where I can... I dunno.. cry.. think.. breathe..

Can you cry? When I lost my mother, I often felt weepy, without actually having the ability to cry deeply- it's hard to explain- easy to cry, but a long, headache-inducing, feeling as if you'd been beat up long hard pillow-soaking cry had frustratingly eluded me, and has ever since. Sometimes I think things hit us too hard to have a good cry.

Sorry about the restrictions- I'm increasingly impatient on behalf of people that are living under them- is there no where or nothing you can do to help you through this? This is denying your need to simply be human.

Thank you. I also like that, to go somewhere to just breathe and relax. There are a lot of things happening right now and I think I need to breathe.

Crying often helps to ease the pain, so I cry when I feel like it.

Are you on Facebook? Did you notice that it somehow has become a digital obituary? I see friends posting about their relatives who died of covid, and it's really sad.

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NewSunRising wrote:

CammieMe wrote:Right now, I just want to cry.

Please let yourself do that . I lost my cousin to Covid and I still grieve for her and for her husband who ended his life 3 months after he lost her .

I'm sorry for your loss Cammie . Sending gentle hugs , if you want some .

I am sorry for your loss too. I do let myself cry, it somehow eases the pain. How old is your cousin?

Thank you Cammie .

She was 72 when she died . She was healthy and active , as was her husband . They never had children so I believe that he just couldn't face life without her . The most heartbreaking thing is that he never got to say goodbye or even see her after she was admitted to the hospital .

It's just tragic .

CammieMe wrote:Are you on Facebook? Did you notice that it somehow has become a digital obituary? I see friends posting about their relatives who died of covid, and it's really sad.

Oh yes- I belong to a occupation-related online group, and a lot of retirees are struggling with the Chicom flu, or have died. Some of these have been fully 'vaccinated'. So much for the jab. No one I personally know has died from the 'Rona, though a couple thought they were going to and I was seriously concerned about one of those. It's a capricious virus that targets folks just a little older than I, the worst. Not to trivialise the many, many deaths that has occurred, but I think that the pandemic seems worse than it is. It's not the first one we've had to live through, even in my lifetime, and it won't be the last (although it may be the last for me). I hear it takes a good couple years for something like this to start settling down and becoming 'routine' like Influenza is. we shall see.