Am i still grieving in a grieving process?

Hello everybody,

so how would you know if you are finally over with grieving? i always convince myself that im over it. it was 9 years ago when my best friend died in a vehicular accident. i didnt cry when i received the news, but i did feel sad. ever since, he'd been part of my life. whenever my relationship is messed up or coming to an end, i always visit to his grave and always think of him. whenever i have problems the first person that pops out of my mind is him. sometimes i fantsize about him, that he is still here and we talk and share secrets and stuff. when im with another guy i talk a lot about him without mentioning his name to the guy im with. i dont know if im still grieving. i dont feel sad when i talk about him, i feel happy just bringing back those memories. i think im keeping him alive.....

We are never done grieving. But, that doesn't mean we can't grieve happily, if that makes sense. You are grieving in a more indirect way, by remembering the good, and not the bad, and for that, you truly are amazing.

Peace,
Mike

thanks mike

hi,
I dont think it stops either. Nov. 10th my dad will be gone a year.
I can not help myself, I am worse now then I was before.

My dad was one of my best friends, so like you, something will happen, and I would really like his input.

I keep trying to think and remember all the good times.

I hope you feel some kind of peace at some point.

Man whenever I think I have it hard, I'll think of you guys. I haven't ever lost anyone terribly close. I don't think I'd be able to cope.

Keep your heads up