Would appreciate any thoughts...

I dunno why I'm posting this in here just that its the only topic that really seems to fit into it. So ill give you a quick overview, about 5 months ago we moved house and the people living in our old house gave me a photo that they found on the floor and didnt recognise the people in it, so far noone knows who the people are and how it got in our house. I however vaguely recognise one of the girls (the picture has 2 girls in it) and recently ive been having these weird things, they arent really dreams as they occur when im just about to fall off to sleep. Ill have sudden thoughts, almost a flashback of memory as they seem so real and the detail is intense, the first one was of a driveway and me playing ball with someone. Then the other one occured this week and it was of the girl i recognised except she was younger and she was running across the road (from the driveway in the previous one) toward me, but then she gets hit by a car and i dont see what happens after that. I dont quite understand why or what they are it all seems weird to me and i think im going crazy lol the feeling afterwards tho is alot different to a dream thats what made me believe it was something different. Please feel free to ask any questions Ill be happy to answer them. I lost my sister 5 years ago and havent fully recovered from it, i had a rough time and saw a therapist who diagnosed me with low latent inhibition and ocpd (dunno if that helps you with anything but thought id add it just in case)

Thanks

These flashbacks or visions triggered by the old photo of the girls may be unresolved issues having to do with your sister's death, especially seeing as how you were traumatized by her loss. What happened to your sister? What was the reaction of your other family members? Were you all able to talk to each other about this loss?
It doesn't sound to me like you are going crazy.
The state of consciousness we enter just before we fall asleep is often the place when things we have walled off to protect ourselves from pain surface, because our defences are down. This can be a doorway to revelation and resolution.

Hey thanks for the reply. My sister was hit by a drunk driver in her car, she was put on life support and died a few hours later. My mum has divorced from my father and hers and i have 2 half sisters so it seems like i was the only person who really found it hard. Noone showed much grief, not even me we just kinda continued with our lives, but the family started falling apart and most people turned to alcohol or some form of drug. So i guess you could say that even tho we didnt show much grief, we all took it pretty badly and it effected us all somehow, our family is still very much changed and theres alot of bitterness over the topic. I have no idea why, but it seems impossible to talk about without someone changing the subject, so even 5 years on I find it very hard to share my thoughts and emotions about the topic to my girlfriend its almost like theres a wall there blocking it all.

Dear super13man,
Far too often families fall apart in the face of such severe trauma. Can you still go see the therapist? This would give you an uninvolved person with whom you can talk about your feelings. It would be ideal if your Mum and half sisters and Dad could also go to therapy, but I know how hard it can be to get the whole family to go, or even just one other member.
For yourself, at least, seek an objective outsider to help you recover from this. And talk to us here as often as you like, too.

Hey thanks. Yeah Im intending to go back to therapy now that its not forced upon me. My half sisters have grown up quite a bit but the other older talks about the event alot more. My mum has actually changed alot and my dad recently was put in jail, but my mum has a new guy now who doesnt help really. I was just wondering, is there a certain amount of time that ur supposed to grieve for? or is it just an ongoing thing because I find it hard to talk about it to people as i feel they think im just repeating myself and asking to be felt sorry for which is not what i want. Does anyone else have this problem?

super13man wrote: I was just wondering, is there a certain amount of time that ur supposed to grieve for? or is it just an ongoing thing because I find it hard to talk about it to people as i feel they think im just repeating myself and asking to be felt sorry for which is not what i want. Does anyone else have this problem?

I think the latter, unresolved issues. Everyone grieves at a different pace, but being unable to share emotions and feelings with other family members prolongs and sometimes prevents proper healing.
A support group for grief, if there are such things where you live, would also be valuable.
You are not feeling sorry for yourself by trying to resolve this, but the other family members are not as open to recovery as you, and are afraid to open old wounds. You are couragious and insightful.
All this advise I'm sharing comes from very similar family events in my past.