Lost a good friend

I have just lost a friend that I knew for almost 5 years. Just yesterday I was crying. And believe, I'm not one who cries. And the feeling I have in my body is so sickning and I want it gone. It's like, I don't want to forget about my friend, but at the same time I want this feeling to just vanish. What do I do?

I Am So Sorry for Your Loss, You Have My Deepest Sympathy

i wish there was something i could say to change things, I lost my best friend 10 years ago in oct. He lives on thru me and his memories, and will always be missed.

I made a memorial for him at home, it helps so much. At the bottom of it is his new marlboro boots that just came that day. his pride and joys.

I miss you Robbie.

hi hun- i'm sp sorry for your loss. it's so unfair when ppl die! i lost my sister 10 years ago and it really changed my life. the mistake i made was not dealing with it and not talking it out and feeling the feelings needed to grieve. i also don't cry and never did back then. as a result i have all this misplaced grief now to deal with and don't know how to.
all i can suggest is to talk it out- talk and talk even if its to the wall or to your late friend- but talk til there's nothing more to say and your'e exhausted. and cry. i know you say it's not easy for you but it really is the body's way of dealing with the emotions and trauma and "bleeds" out your pain.

have you got someone to talk to you trust? have you got a good support system for you?

death is not an easy thing to deal with for those of us left behind to pick up the pieces, but hun it will get easier. i know it doesn't seem that way now, but it will. there will be a day again when you can think of your friend without it hurting so much- where you can laugh about the funny stuff you guys got up to etc. where you can remember with peace the good times you shared.

if you need to talk we're all here for you. take your time. grief is healthy- so don't shut it out, altho i know it's prob what you want to do right now. and eat- don't skip meals (like a lot of ppl do because they just loose their appetites due to the grief) because if you don't your already fragile emotions will just seem that much worse.

take care!

My sympathies to you regarding the loss of your friend. I'm really sorry you are having to go through this.

Do you want to talk about your friend....do you want to talk about how he (or she?) died.........do you feel like sharing w/ us about their life and your memories?

Talking is a good place to start. But just let yourself grieve. I know what you are feeling sucks and it's just not a good place to be, but your emotions are very normal. You need to allow yourself to go through this "grieving process". And I can assure you that in time it will ease. There will be a time when you can think of your friend w/out all the good memories being overshadowed by this deep dark pain you feel right now.

Well, as of right now I'm cleared up of the sickness feeling. But I'm sad still. To make myself feel better is I tell myself that death comes to us all and there was nothing I could do to save people from it. I have a feeling that if people bring him up I'll get very upset. What got me was that for so long I told myself that I wanted to die because I had so many problems that could easily deal with... And I did deal with them, but I kept saying terrible things to myself. And now, someone who did love his life has lost it. And my sorry ass is still here, breathing.

But it was the way he died was so wierd. He died in a car crash, the car was filled with people but he was the only one who died, not even the speeding driver died. The way I found out is I saw "R.I.P. Josh" one someone's myspace, I got confused and did a google search on it to find my good friend has died. It was like an omen, my dad was somewhere else and he heard the news that kids from my town had been in an accident. This was before my dad knew that I also knew, but he didn't know who the kids were like I did. Meanwhile, I told my mom the news and one of the candles with a lot of wick to go, had randomly fizzed out RIGHT before my horrible story. My dad said he had saw the car that crash, he said, "The car was absolutely destroyed."

If only I knew that heaven and god existed, then I know that my friend is in a better place. But I never neither seen of the two. But if I knew those two things existed, nothing in this planet could make me feel bad again.

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie.
My deepest sympathys.

I remember the first good friend I lost many years ago. We were seniors in high school and took alot of classes together. We were taking a difficult math class to prepare us for college. The teacher was soooo good looking, but her tests were hard. Just two days before his death, we had a test. He was such a joker when he got stressed. He pricked his finger with the staple in the test and signed his name in blood. When he handed in his test he told the teacher, "You were out for blood today...so I signed it in blood!" Everyone laughed. He was killed in a tractor accident on his dad's farm. I'll never forget the teacher's reaction when she handed back the tests. She came to his and just started weeping and excused everyone from class. After many years I still feel a deep connection to this friend. Whenever I had a really hard test after that, I would think of him and laugh and feel better. I believe his positive energy is out there somewhere in the universe. The most important parts of your friend will always remain alive in you.

The thing that sucks is. I am depressed because all I did was complain about how much my life sucked. And he was greatful for his yet he lost his. And for some odd reason here I stand still on this earthly plane. Yes, this STILL bugs me. But it changed my ways, I became slightly more optimistic, and now I can feel other people's pain when they lose close ones. I said this once I'll say it again, if I knew heaven existed, I'd be the happiest person on the planet. But I gotta realize... Now matter how close or far away it is from me. I'll disappear off this planet, and (hopefully) someone will feel the same way I felt.

Who knew a death of someone like this could change a person's way.

Hey,
I'm very sorry for your loss. How old are you? How old was your friend? I lost someone very close to me in a car accident back in 2003. It was a one car accident and she was the only one in the vehicle when it happened, but it happened because she was drunk and speeding around some really sharp curves. She crashed 2 miles from home. This person was my 37 year old aunt. She was the best friend in the world, even to her mom, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, daughters, and husband. I'm still very upset over my loss. Just last night I cried for close to an hour because I miss her so much. All I can say is that your friend is in Heaven now and that he is in a better place and he's not suffering, in fact, he's very happy up there. I don't know if you've watched the short video that's posted in this forum called "I Spoke With My Child," but it's worth it and is a good reassurance that your friend is with God. I don't know if you are around 17 years old or not, but I know that being 17 and dealing with all this is really hard, especially if you are going into your senior year of high school. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me or add me to MSN or Yahoo messenger (my addies are in my profile) or e-mail me.

~Jamie~

I am 16. My friend was 16 too I think. He died because his friend was driving at like 80mph and missed a turn completely and hit a tree. Whoever was driving shouldn't of been driving. The driver took his brothers car and didn't have a license. The other kids in the car were injured immensely, and the scary thing is, I think I seen some of them in school.

But it's soo wierd now. Ever since then I can feel the same thing over again when someone else mentions losing someone they knew. I thought I was a heartless person. But I only found myself crying for him.