don't know whether this counts as a loss

my dad was a doting and unselfish parent when i was about two. then he was in a car accident and sustained severe injuries to his frontal lobe, the reduced blood flow and injuries eventually causing him to plunge into schizophrenia.

since i was eleven he's been in and out of mental hospitals and his religious delusions tore our family apart. he and mum got separated almost two years ago because he refused to believe he was sick, and not the son of god, and wouldn't take his meds.

i can't remember him being the caring man my family tell me about. i was too young. now he won't accept my ability to choose my own religion, he won't tolerate the ideas i express, and he threw out a painting i had made for my mother because he deemed it blasphemous. he seeks attention in any way he can, he deliberately disrupts family situations, he really is more of a vehicle for disease than a father.

how the hell am i supposed to relate to men after having him control my mum and my family for so long? masochistically as it turns out. now finally i have a boyfriend who cares about me and vice versa but i worry WAY too much about pissing him off. and how am i supposed to relate to dad when he shows up asking for more money?

*angry*

ignore him...make as if he does not exist....he talks...you don'r reply...

ignore him...make as if he does not exist....he talks...you don't reply...

Hello Mephy....I took had a distructive parent father but alcholic. He beat my mom and my brother. I also do not trust men. My husband and I have not much of a relationship because of it.

I forgave my dad before he passed away. Your dad is sick so forgive him.
Hugs,
AnnaDee

Hello Mephy....I too had a distructive parent father but alcholic. He beat my mom and my brother. I also do not trust men. My husband and I have not much of a relationship because of it.

I forgave my dad before he passed away. Your dad is sick so forgive him. Just give him more of your love and just maybe he will return it.
Hugs,
AnnaDee

Hello Mephy....I too had a distructive parent father but alcholic. He beat my mom and my brother. I also do not trust men. My husband and I have not much of a relationship because of it.

I forgave my dad before he passed away. Your dad is sick so forgive him. Just give him more of your love and just maybe he will return it.
Hugs,
AnnaDee