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my cat died almost 6 years ago and he was only 2

Postby nightmareb4christmas » Thu Feb 12, 2009 2:17 pm

He got hit by a car :( I've never got over it I love the cat I have now but I still miss my little black cat terrible.
Nobody cares though they think Im just been stupid and putting it on.
When he first died we found out at about 9am in the morning at first I couldn't cry I was just shocked it was the evening that I burst into tears but everyone was mean to me especialy my brother he accussed me of attention seeking and putting it on and the rest of the family agreed with him and they were all very abusive to me :(
Im also a goth so a black cat suited me I feel my heart break in half when I see a black cat and even when I see Emily the strange drawings.
I act like Im fine round my family and put a smile on my face if I talk to him but really Im not fine and if I ever show it my sister tells me that I can't be missing him after all this time.
I just don't know what to do I just wish I could have him back :(
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Postby SmallTalkRed » Thu Feb 12, 2009 5:19 pm

I am sorry you lost your cat. Mine was Black too.
I wrote a poem for the last one. That/And Or I get another cat.

I love cats so much that i will always have one in my life.

It takes time too.
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Postby nightmareb4christmas » Thu Feb 12, 2009 7:18 pm

I find it so unfair that he was only 2 when he died :(
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Postby jasmin » Mon Feb 23, 2009 7:26 pm

((((((((((((((((((nb4c))))))))))))))))))))))) Of course you still miss him and think about him. I know what it's like and remembering him is the best you can do now.
It's so horrible that your family would bully you and abuse you because you miss your cat. I'm so sorry.
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Postby nightmareb4christmas » Mon Feb 23, 2009 8:21 pm

I hate how I have to put up with this :cry:

Also he was the nicest most affection friendly cat you could ever meet
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Postby jasmin » Mon Feb 23, 2009 8:53 pm

I'm sure he was. It's nice that you remember him that way, but try not to think about it so much, it can hurt. Try to do something you enjoy and then put the memories you have of him in a "box" in your mind and make sure they're mostly nice memories.
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Postby nightmareb4christmas » Mon Feb 23, 2009 8:57 pm

another thing that makes it so sad is he was a rescue cat so he had had a very bad start in life and he had only lived with us for a year and then he got hit by a car :cry:
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Postby jasmin » Tue Feb 24, 2009 6:10 pm

It's awful, but it can't be changed now. How is the kittie that you have now? You can be kind to other animals to honor his memory, if you like.
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Postby caroline » Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:23 am

I understand what others might label "prolonged grief." What they don't understand is that grief takes as long as it takes.

Your family sounds as if they don't understand what a sensitive soul you are. It must be difficult sharing space with them. My brother would easily have said something as cruel as yours.

Question: Are you considered the "black sheep" of the family, and are you the "appointed patient?" (Assigned the "crazy" role in the family)

Another way to put it is the family scapegoat. Destroys the soul of a vulnerable.

I was.

It might be a good idea if you talk to a professional so you can address your grief and pain. It wouldn't hurt to spend some time on family dynamics, either.

I hope you will feel better. Keep writing--it soothes the soul.

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Postby nightmareb4christmas » Wed Feb 25, 2009 11:04 am

my name is also Caroline

My family think I put been too sensitive on and think it's about time I grew up and stood up for myself.

They say this just because the rest of my family have always been tough and stood no messing
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