Friend has passed on.Don't know how to approach things.

Hello.Recently I found out that one of my friends has passed away.Her boyfriend/my friend let me know through a voicemail.The three of us attended a Lifeskills group last year.My friend,who is mildly autistic,has just been destroyed by the whole ordeal.We both attended her service and her burial.Her death was almost a month ago and I have yet to see my friend once again.I have never had to experience the death of someone that was close to me.(This girl was closer to me than people I have known since junior high school who I currently know.I have noticed myself feeling very anxious around people for no particular reason.Is there anything that I can do for myself and my friend other than call his phone,only to get his voicemail?I can only imagine,not compehend what he is going throught,but I just want him to get better emotionally.

Hey,

Are you implying that your friend is now ignoring you since the death? That's the impression I have from reading your post. If that is the case, then I'm guessing that he's ignoring you because you remind him too much of his [now dead] girlfriend. I'm not saying that you physically or even mentally remind him of her; rather, it's the association you had with her that brings the memories back. it could be that he wants to bring his life forward by closing this old chapter and moving on. Some people do this when things get too difficult - i.e. they 'erase' their past because it's too painful to deal with.

While you might find it difficult to change the way he is, you can change how you deal with everything that has happened and is [currently] happening in your own life. When my cousin died in a car accident, his brother (my other cousin) had to go to a counsellor to get better. I'm implying that maybe you should think about doing the same.

Take care,
kevin