Dealing with loss of brother

Hello. I'm a young woman that has just experienced something I wish would never happen to me. My brother commited suicide some weeks ago. I think about it everyday. It's so sad. Firstly: He never mentioned to me or to our mom or dad that he thought live was not worth living. He seemed like he was happy. Now he's gone. I keep wpndering if there was something anyone could have done to help him...how could we be so blind to his problems?
I know regret is common but I also know we can't turn back time. So what do I do now? I will keep his memory in my heart forever.

I made a very-nearly-successful suicide attempt when I was younger, and I can tell you, there is no way anyone around me would have known what I was going to do. Ultimately, our lives are our own. Your brother has made the decision to try to find a more peace-filled existence, and I know that he did this without wishing you harm or any kind of hurt. I hope that you can take comfort from the hope that he is finally at peace, and that it was not a lack of love from you that brought him to make that decision.

I lost a very good friend to depression and schizophrenia. There were no warning signs. He was popular, seemed very happy with his family, and was a sensitive compassionate person.

This young man's mother e-mail me his "good bye" letter to family and friends. His death had a profound impression in my heart....he was like a son to me and he was a friend to one of my sons.

I know it's beyond difficult but please do not blame yourself. think "if only I had done this or that....". To him it was the only way he could become free of schizophrenia. He died one and a half years ago and it still rocks my boat when I think of him and what he did.

I am sorry for your loss...
Sweetngentle

Rain_67 I am sorry for your loss. I also lost my brother to suicide years ago. He was in a state where we knew might be suicidal and made attempts before, yet in the end no one could help him. Nothing anyone could have done would have stopped him. I also struggle with the regret and the thoughts of what more I could have done, but the past can not be changed. I still think of him and miss him everyday. I have also been to the point of almost taking my own life and hid how I was feeling from everyone around me. So, i know how people can hide their feelings and intentions and put on a happy face. I strongly recommend finding a support group or someone to talk to about what you're going through. Just remember you have a right to feel everything you are feeling, and also remember there was nothing you could have done.