anxiety has ruined my relationship.

I have anxiety issues too and I definitely pushed my ex boyfriend away (he's more avoidant). I just have to hope that there are secure people out there who can be there for us when anxiety hits. At least that's what I hope.

Its sad so many of us relate. (-_-) Because of my own issues I stood firmer through my ex's Bitchiness/sociopathic (found out latter she had hyper-thyroid issues) episodes because I knew that thats when she needed me the most. This was far from reciprocated and she just took me for granted, projected all her issues onto me and ran from all her problems. We cannot do for others what they wont do for themselves eh? Mindfulness is something thats getting rare in people I guess. (X_X) lol

I read you and I realize that this is also my case. I searched for help but I am kind of desperate now.

My boyfriend and I are constantly having problems due to my anxiety. Well, not technically, but I always perceive it as such. I get paranoid that he hates me, or that he's seeing someone else, or even that he's dead if he hasn't replied to a text... Not all the time, just when my anxiety is acting up. Sometimes, we actually do get into fights since I get so anxious and want to see him but he is busy with class or work or whatnot so I can't see him, but insist upon it, so he gets mad that i keep badgering him when he can't come see me. But it's all good in the end, and he assures me all is well, but there's always this anxiousness in my mind that all is not well. I love him dearly, I really do, and I do trust him, it's just always this thing nagging at me...

This happens with my normal friends, too, but not quite to the same extent. Mostly, it's when I haven't heard from them in a while, so I start freaking out, thinking they hate me/are ignoring me, or that maybe they've died.

Anxiety has definitely come close to ruining some of my relationships before, and it did end up ending one with a best friend in high school though (she really was a jerk though and my paranoia that she was making fun of me behind my back was actually true, I think).

Hi, I just joined the forum to try to get some perspective from "the other side of the fence", if you will.

I have known a woman online for four years. I am traveling 500 miles to see her for Christmas for the first time. Without writing a book, it's the same story as I've seen posted in this thread, with one exception, she has Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have no MH issues. It's funny, because originally, I couldn't stand her and now after four years, I love her. She used to drink fairly heavily and I think this masked her anxiety issues. She drinks very rarely now and her anxiety issues are almost all the time.

I tell her that I love her; she doesn't believe me. I've tried to make the effort to see her three times before and something always comes up. The last time she came straight out and told me that she didn't want me going to see her. We stop talking and she always texts me with general things. I sent her roses and she told me she was so happy that she cried. She texted me a couple of days ago, thanking me again for them. Then, last night, she tells me that she wishes that I never sent them to her.

I've read many things and watched countless videos about GAD. I told her that I'm trying to learn about it because I want to understand it and help her versus it driving us apart. I've taken a ton of verbal/emotional abuse, she apologizes, then it happens again. One time, I told her that it wasn't fair that she makes me the focus of her ire, and she told me, "Life isn't fair." Wow, just wow.

She has this whole thing that she wants to live together and have kids. We haven't even met yet! She's quit several jobs in the past because "they weren't working out for her". How is she going to handle having children??? I'm going to see her for four days to see if me being there in person will alleviate this stress. Although after reading many posts about this, I don't hold much hope. I'm thinking it will most likely just worsen the situation. Everything is still on track, but I still haven't made the hotel reservations, for fear that she will change her mind at the last minute and I'll be out several hundred dollars.

On her good days, she is loving, caring, intelligent, funny, and a giving woman. This is the trap.

I still love her and I'm trying to dig deep to stay by her, but it's getting really hard. I've lost weight (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but what a way to do it), my blood pressure is nearing borderline high, and in general, I just don't feel well. Where do I draw the line?

Eh, I wrote a book anyways. Sorry about that. Thank you in advance for any feedback you can provide.

I am looking for some advice! I'm 18 years of age and meet the love of my life two years ago my first proper boyfriend. We live with each other in my parents home and practically three months after we meet. Since been living together we both have lost touch with our friends and it's just me an him everyday which I don't mind because I love him but I know a few other girls he's been with in the past and every time I think of them with him it gives me a massive heavy feeling in my chest like I can't breathe but I can . I'm going to be the end of our relationship I cannot help but say stuff to accuse him and I try my best not to but it's like another person speaking for me am constantly accusing him of talkin to girls on social media or even looking and it kills me. Everybody just keeps saying because I'm young but I know theirs something wrong with me am to weird I stalk his social media sneak on his phone and constantly obsessing over him! Feels like I'm mental I don't even go to education or work because I want to be with him to see what he's doing or who he's with. It shouldn't be like this it's making me feel worthless. I have talked to him about this but I just cannot explain what's going on in my head just incase he thinks I'm insane I can't live like this anymore and am going to loose the best thing that's ever happened to me feel stupid telling strangers this but I just don't no who else to tell..