Overly attached to parents as an adult

I don't know if that's exactly it, but I need help.

I have had this problem ever since I was getting old enough to move out. The idea of no longer being "home" at my parents' house really bothers me. I'm 25 now.

My parents are separated. Whenever I visit my mom's place I always tell her not to treat me as a guest but as if I never left her house. I live at my father's place from fall to spring, for college. he recently moved out, leaving me with the old house, which is awesome. But it just hit me tonight. "Things will never be the same". He's not going to live here ever again. and I just can't stop crying at this fact, I really don't know why. I know I could easily call him or visit him, but it's not really that which bothers me. I'd feel like I was intruding anyway, as I feel it's abnormal at my age to be this upset by living on my own.

I don't even think it's just the fact of being alone, because I loved being home alone back when I knew that my parents would eventually return.

Can anyone help me to understand and stop feeling this way, and does/did anyone here have similar anxieties?

Dear hermelin:

there is no stronger attachment that a child (of any age) to a parent. It forms early and it stays. It is nature. And it lasts into old age. Don't be alarmed.

atina

It seems like a lot of things are going on right now, and you're having trouble dealing with them all. Parents breaking up is a really big thing, doesn't matter what age you are. Plus, you're very close to them, so it's hurting even more.
I understand how it is to still be living at home with parents. I come from a society (hispanic/latino), where back home, we stay home until we're married. But eeer.. I turned out to be gay. And dating hasn't really been that great for me. I'm also the baby and my parents depend on me for a lot of things. I feel like all my brothers and sister left me to take care of mom and dad, and I'm all alone. I have tried living alone 3 times, and due to my psych reasons and substance abuse at the time, I had to move back.

I honestly wish I could help you out more. I will say this, the earlier you get out, the easier it'll be to be independent. I was going through waaaaay too much in my mid 20s to try and even be independent. And now that I honestly feel safe and secure enough that I would be able to live alone, My parents just got used to having me around and have even talked me out of moving out.