How do I tell someone with anxiety that I cheated?

I am in a serious relationship with someone with strong anxiety and depression. The other day, someone I am acquainted with just grabbed my face and started kissing me, and I didn't stop them. Whether or not you consider that cheating, it broke the trust we have. I know I need to tell this, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it. Springing things on this person, good or bad, hasn't gone well in the past, but giving them too much time to think and overthink things probably won't go well either. Any help?

candaceisanut wrote:I am in a serious relationship with someone with strong anxiety and depression. The other day, someone I am acquainted with just grabbed my face and started kissing me, and I didn't stop them. Whether or not you consider that cheating, it broke the trust we have. I know I need to tell this, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it. Springing things on this person, good or bad, hasn't gone well in the past, but giving them too much time to think and overthink things probably won't go well either. Any help?

First thing would be to explain to your girlfriend/boyfriend that you realise you made a big mistake. If that is, you see it as a mistake. Tell them you messed up and you are very sorry. Tell them it meant nothing if indeed it did mean nothing to you.

Tell them it'll never ever happen again.

Above all, mean it. Be sincere in every word. I think if you do that it'll resonate with them and they'll be fine. Eventually. Might take a day, a few days, a week, a month. But I think if you are sincerely sorry, then they'll recognise that and you'll be fine.

What does anxiety has to do with what you have done?

Coming from personal experience...



My ex told me that she cheated at the 1.5 year mark of dating. It eventually ended our relationship at 3 years. I was diagnosed with GAD 2 years after it ended. It's all I could constantly think about.. and I couldn't quite help it. If I knew I had GAD.. I would've seeked treatment. It's so hard to escape the mind.