I Can Never Identify What My Real Fears Are...?

Hi guys...

Probably like most I've been suffering from anxiety most of my life, 16 years in my case. I've come a long way since then, I've been able to do some things that before, I wouldn't have dared done, but life sort of pushed it's boundaries and I took leaps of faith. Anyway, there are still areas of my life that I still want to attempt to fix, as I still have no friends, not even a relationship; the only thing is, I don't know what to fix.

I read a lot of self-help on the internet, it's a habit that, and one or two books, and they all say the same thing, identify those negative, or those negative core beliefs yada yada...here's the thing, I've tried this dozens of times in my mind whilst in the situation,trying to 'catch' them and zero, literally zero thoughts come to mind; it's a totally automatic emotional reaction, and, to be honest, it pisses me off.

What the hell can I do in this situation?

Heya DarkTyChi, sorry to hear that you've been going through this for that long. I personally wish none had to!

I know I can never fully recognize my fears, or what even causes me anxiety. I know with me it's being in a moving vehicle with an unknown driver (yes, I have, and will, sit near the front of the bus and talk to the driver a little bit, but only enough to find out about them. It eases me.)

Anyway, is there anything that 'stands out' to you? When do these fears often hit you? That would probably be a good basis for a start, but I would also have someone that I trust with me, so that way they can either write it down, or let you know.

It's not always easy, but with work, all information can be found out!