Have you ever ended a relationship due to anxiety?

Warning: I'm including several details about my ex's anxiety, so it may trigger. If you want to skip the details, the short question is: have you ever ended a relationship due to your anxiety, and did you later decide to give the relationship another try? If so, what helped you feel OK with trying again with that same person?

The details:

I am a "non" wondering if anyone here has ended a romantic relationship due to anxiety/ feeling they can't handle the stress a relationship brings, even if (especially if?) it's a good relationship.

My ex broke up with me very suddenly after two wonderful years together and a marriage proposal the month before the breakup.

I don't know what his diagnosis is (he hasn't been to a doctor recently) but he was confirmed in the past as having OCD and severe anxiety.

We had a better-than-great relationship, very loving, we did everything together.

In the last three months of the relationship he started to become paranoid about me cheating. This would come and go (at least, as I perceived it), and he'd try to brush it off or explain it away. Basically, if we weren't making music together enough, or if there was some other stressor in his life, the paranoid thought would set in. The spiked anxiety episodes seemed to only last a night or so, separated by weeks of wonderfulness.

Last month he broke up with me, ostensibly because he claimed I was cheating on him that particular afternoon when I went to the city to get my hair colored. (Nothing could be further from the truth and there was never even the slightest reason for him to mistakenly think that. He even admitted he didn't have "concrete evidence".) But at the same time, he said something else that hinted at plain old terrible anxiety: he said that living together was too much stress, and if every day were like vacation, when we were relaxed and free to do whatever we liked, he'd be fine. But that he couldn't go on with things as they were.

Since the breakup, he's said very little to explain himself, but one thing he has repeated is that "living together is too much stress." He hasn't said anything more about the cheating accusations.

Recently we've had friendlier texts and I'm wondering if he would be willing to try continuing the relationship without living together. It really doesn't matter to me-- neither he nor I wants kids, and I don't even care about being married. He really is my true love and all I care about is his love. If that meant seeing each other only three days a week for the rest of our lives, allowing him space for peace of mind, that would be fine with me.

Of course, nobody but my ex himself can say whether that would work. But I'm just wondering if some anxiety sufferers here could share insight, if they had an anxiety flareup that ended a relationship.

Hi,

I quick history first I think about myself.

Im 31 and married for 3 years. I have had a history of anxiety and depression when I was 18 then again at 21 and now at 31. I say again and again but it obviously been with me a while but not really controlling any part of my life until now. I thought that my husband was spending too much time with someone I didn't like. It was a friendship (I know...you think whatever. but I know my husband, he doesn't really have the confidence and cannot hide anything either). But, he distanced himself from me and I fought to have him back. I got him back too by the way.

Now at my peak before I was medicated. I really considered leaving because everytime I had a panic attack or cry out of nowhere it really upset him. he would get angry etc at me and then stop being there. what I found out was that he was frustrated that he couldn't help me. There is nothing that he can do or say that can stop it and it wont be leaving for long. My message I suppose is that he felt like he was being kind to you. if you have type of relationship (loving and caring and you love and care for him), then you can get thru it. he was proberbly being kind. my husband said that he was hurting me and he was going to leave so that I wouldn't hurt any more and this is someone that loves me so much that he hurts me and thought that he could be kind and leave. he didn't. I didn't. we are trying to make it work. we have more good days than bad days and being intimate more times than others helps. but spending time and laughing helps too.

I hope this helps. it strains the relationship and there are dips and peaks all the time but you end up being stronger. he helps me everyday. I just have to remember that we are there for each other. goodluck.