ANXIETY? LAZYNESS? PROCRASTINATION?...help please!

Hello all~
I feel like a reletively outgoing person. Definately not shy with my friends. Train new people at work, and give tours as well.
Why is it I cannot without extreme avoidance or anxiety call the auto mechanic on the phone to discuss a problem with my car, go into the flooring store to talk to a salesperson about getting carpet installed, go get my oil changed etc......I won't do anything on the phone or in person that I can get away with doing on line. The simplest things (and some not so simple) I avoid. I have paperwork from 2 different estates that have not been dealt with from 4 and 6 years ago. Both financially to my benefit but every time I know I need to get it taken care of I put it off a little longer (now years).

This starts to effect everything in my life. I can't do the fun stuff because I should get this other stuff taken care of first but for some reason I just can't get the other stuff done. I don't understand what this is or why it is happening. It has been this way for years. It is going to effect my relationships too.~~~Can't have friends over because the house looks bad because it needs new carpet, can't get new carpet because I cant talk to the sales person...blah, blah, blah...
There are uncountable amounts of stuff like this in my life. Can someone give me some ideas? I am assuming it is some sort of anxiety but it is only there in certain situations. HELP PLZ.

Thanks loads,

cJo

Maybe you get anxious about doing such things because you feel that you don't know much about them. Do you feel like you will be at a loss for words? I get anxious about doing things like that and I procrastinate. But, I also have social anxiety that effects me in other ways. Over years I have been able to just force myself to do these things. Ask yourself why am I avoiding these things? What am I afraid of? You will find that the reasoning is not reason enough. Remember the old Nike gimick "Just Do It" thats what you have to keep telling yourself.
Make a list of all the things that you have been putting off and hang it on you refridgerator. And promise your self that you will conquer at least one each day. The phone calls get easier the more you make them.
Check this out http://webhome.idirect.com/~readon/procrast.html

Hey cJo,
I think that aimdog pretty much said it all- great advice!!! I definetely agree that the best idea in dealing with these situations is to try to expose yourself to them, until you start to feel more comfortable and used to them. I have social anxiety, and the only way that I have been able to deal with it over the years is to place myself in situations that make me feel uncomfortable, like being in a large crowd of people, until I feel more comfortable and realize that they aren't so bad.
Good luck, and take care!
<3
drama_queen

Hey~
Thanks aim and drama,
I think you have really good points. I know most of these situations are also where I have to ask for help. Your right about maybe not being comfortable because I may not know much about the situation. I am also dyslexic and often invert words and letters as I speak them, not only read them. Or sometimes the simplest word will not come to my lips. Or they often come out wrong. Last week I went to look at carpet with a friend and I was trying to say berber but said boober! We laughed very hard and for a long time but my friend did realize now why I am reluctant to talk to the sales person. OH WELL. Thanks alot you guys. I will try my best. I hope.

cJo

hi,
i was browsing through the internet about generalized anxiety disorder and procrastination (something i've been doing for the past month), i realized this post was made in 2006 and i was wondering how you are coping with everything today?
I am 18 years old about to graduate high school and i am rediculously behind work, i have always procrastinated my whole life, though i never thought it was anything bad, until 3 or 4 years ago, i have avoided it and have been able to hide my anxiety and procrastination perfectly, by being extremely sarcastic and outgoing. i have managed to 'slip through the system' in school by never volunteering for anything never raising my hand in any class, some teachers do not realize i am in their class..
I am extremely scared about entering university next year and dealing with life later on, i worry about rediculous things like when i will get married, about my future children and then excessively about tiny things, will i catch the bus home on time will i finish my work today...i worry so much that i never end up doing actually what i intended to do..
hope i get a reply and get to know how other people are surviving with this..
thank youuu