Born in the wrong bodies...

Hello everyone :B I've been a long time lurker on this board, but Ive finally mustered up the gusto to post something.

Damn, where to start? I guess I'll start with my end of things. This post is also about my boyfriend, who has gender identification issues as well.

So. Yes. I've been a tomboy my whole life. I always had male friends growing up, and would quite often get into fist fights with them. I've always had the mentality that just because I'm a girl, doesn't mean I can't be tough/masculine/badass. I've been openly bisexual for about 12 years now ( getting ready to turn 25, w007~!), and I knew a long time before I discovered boys, that I liked girls. I'm pretty even about that, not preferring one sex to the other. I feel like I view people as souls, rather than physical beings. Or, at least thats how I view myself. I've also struggled with anorexia in the past, due to my gender issues. I hate having female fatty bits -hanging- off of my bones. I feel weighed down, and disgusting. I much prefered being far too thin; because at least that way it was impossible to tell my gender by just looking at me. I prefer to embrace beauty in all its forms, wether I chose to bind my chest and put on my leather jacket and combat boots, or the days where I'd like to dress up in a pencil skirt, curl my hair, and go out as a pinup girl.

I've mostly dated men in my life, in that the one woman I was with absolutely BROKE me. She used to say things along the lines that 'I had boy in my blood, and 'she' was a lesbian'. If she had only known at the time how right she was. If only I had known. Blah. Whatevah.

My boyfriend is going to be 32 soon, and identifies as the opposite gender as well. I am the only one he has come out to about it, and we really do revel in the fact that we can be honest with each other about our identities. We've both named our true selves, and fully embrace the duality of our relationship. Its pretty awesome..

But sometimes I worry that he will forget about my female side. As I said before, although I identify as male most of the time, I still have a very sweet, soft, girly side to myself. He tends to identify as mostly female, and Im afraid that he might lose sight of that... in being swept up by our duality. Mah. I have no idea where Im going with this..

Anyway, just wanted to introduce myself, and give a bit of insight as to why I'm now joining this forum. I think this website is a damned amazing thing. Its fantastic that there is a place to talk about all of the things we cant say aloud to the world, and to try and better understand ourselves, or others with the same or similar issues.

Hey,

There are quite a few different topics that can be talked about here, but some of the forums [here] are not very active. So, do'nt feel too bad if you do'nt get much response. This GID Forum, for example, has never been 'lively', but over the years I have spoken to quite a few here.

Your situation is one that I have never come across before, but I can easily understand why you and your partner get along so well. You seem quite uncertain about the future though, as judged by the uncertainty about what the true message of your post was! - hehe. What do you both do during your 'working days'?; or do you have jobs? It is important to have something to do each day, because being left alone with one's mind isn't a very good thing!

Do you or your partner have any plans for getting an operation to 'change' your sex? I know one person who has already gone through the process, and I met 'him' (now her) on this website a few years ago.

Kevin