Lesbian needs help!

Hi everyone, I am new here! I have some questions..

My sexuality has been brothering me since I was a kid. I am a girl and have always known I am a lesbian. I have "dated" guys just for fun and too shy too ask girls out. Anyways, I am 25 now and 3 years ago I started to date a guy. At first we were just friends with benefits, but later it got serious. So yeah we have been together 3 years now and things are just fine. He's always out of town and every time he's gone I feel really lonely and stressed, but I'm not sure if that's love. I spend a lot on him and everything. I can even say I can't live without him!

On the other side, before this dude, I've never love or even like men before. I mean men do turn me on sexually, but when I daydream or thinking about what I want in the future I would think of dating/marrying a woman. I always want to leave this relationship and date a girl. It almost feel like I am a lesbian but got addicted to this one man if you know what I mean. So I have couple questions:

Am I normal? Anyone here is like me too?
Is it possible for a lesbian to be attracted to ONE man?
Am I a lesbian?

I am SO CONFUSED. And I wasn't until I met him. My gay friends used to think I was just a les who's too girly to attract girly girls (I like girly girls )

Thanks guys!

Am I normal? Anyone here is like me too?
Is it possible for a lesbian to be attracted to ONE man?
Am I a lesbian?

Yes, you are normal since "normal" changes like underwear. Just a bit confused.
Not myself but, I do find one male musician to be attractive. Could be because he looks like a girl.
Anything is possible. He might be the man you want to be with except for your desires for another woman. Did you want there to be more men?
You are bisexual, if anything and if there is such a thing. You just might long for females more.

-Joshua-


What age did you start believing you were a lesbian? Where there any influences to effect that? I do not know if your anxiety is love per' ce as it could be that you generally miss his company. I am as confused as you are. You cannot live without him and yet, you desire to end the relationship for another girl. You are allowed such thoughts as a human being yet, you really have to look at the dynamics of your relationship with him. The basic what you have in common, would you still be together if you held out for a month, yours and his definition of love, and can you see yourselves happy together twenty years from now.

You said you saw yourself with a woman in your daydreams and thoughts so, just how often are you in conflict? You may be struggling to find your sexual identity. A part of you is telling you what you need and another is telling you what you want. I cannot tell you which is the angel and which is the devil on your shoulder...I could but that is not for me to decide, dear.

-Nanashi-