So confused about by gender

Ok i'm new to this forum but I just need some advice or something.

I'm currently a 22year old female but all my life i've wished I was male. When I was growing up I did what most boys did, played football, climbed trees ect.. when I was really young apparently I followed my dad to the toilet and I actually tried to pee standing up, everyone just thought it was funny but now i'm starting to wonder. I always dress like a guy, and everyone that doesn't know me sees me as a guy, but the people that know me they just see me as a lesbian. I absolutely adore women but I do like being a woman myself. I avoid looking in mirrors because when I do I just see something that makes me feel sick inside. I have absolutely no confidence what so ever and I tend to hide myself away in my room most of the time because I just hate the way I look, yes that could be because I have no confidence but I just don't feel like a woman. My best friend, family and other people tell me i'm a beautiful female but that just upsets me. I've never actually spoke to my family about how I feel about this issue i'm having about my gender, i've always kept it to myself but recently things have got to the point where I just can't keep it to myself anymore because I would just do something that would hurt my family and friends.

Please can somebody help me


Thank you

Hi Confused... greetings... hope all is well...
Am a bit new to the site as well but I've noticed a lot of the questions you are curious about are being answered in some of the other posts in this GID focus area... just a suggestion... hope it helps...

Kriss

It is not the least bit surprising that you are confused.

The formal view of the mental health profession (as embodied in the DSM and the ICD) is that gender variance is a psychological disorder (disease of the mind as contrasted with disease of the brain) called GID - Gender Identity Disorder.

But the de-facto worldwide association of professionals in the field (WPATH) takes the contrary view. That gender variance is not psychopathology. Rather that the problem lies, not in the individual, but in the society that discriminates against transgender people for no good reason. It doesn't help that most religions typically hold that transgender people are sinners (bad rather than mad).

The parallel with the history of homosexuality as a mental illness is startling.

The formal WPATH position is stated here:
http://tinyurl.com/WPATHondepsychopathologization
or equivalently (cut and paste the entire line because the hot link is broken)
http://www.wpath.org/documents/de-psychopathologisation 5-26-10 on letterhead.pdf
... FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE May 26, 2010
The World Professional Association for Transgender Health has prepared and released a statement urging the de-psychopathologisation of gender variance worldwide. The statement is as follows: The WPATH Board of Directors strongly urges the de-psychopathologisation of gender variance worldwide. The expression of gender characteristics, including identities, that are not stereotypically associated with one’s assigned sex at birth is a common and culturally-diverse human phenomenon which should not be judged as inherently pathological or negative. The psychopathologlisation of gender characteristics and identities reinforces or can prompt stigma, making prejudice and discrimination more likely, rendering transgender and transsexual people more vulnerable to social and legal marginalisation and exclusion, and increasing risks to mental and physical well-being. WPATH urges governmental and medical professional organizations to review their policies and practices to eliminate stigma toward gender-variant people.” ...

In France, Spain, Germany and Sweden at least those recommendations are being implemented. But they are not (or not yet) in English-speaking countries.

Did u still a virgin ? If you have sex maybe will change the mind!