Annoyed

Oh my god, I am so annoyed of people asking me if I am a boy or a girl. Whenever somebody asks me I get really angry and self concious because they must think I look like a shim. The funny thing is that I actually dont feel like any gender although im a girl.
I think that gender shouldnt matter and you should like people for who they are anyway. I always wear girls clothing but people always ask me what the hell I am. If I chopped off my long locks and dressed in mens attire then maybe people would take me as a guy, cos my boobs arnt too big. HAHA this sounds sorta funny and sad , ill laugh at myself for a few seconds before I continue.
Dont people know that it is rude to ask people what gender they are? Are people so cold they dont take my feelings into consideration before they start asking such a question? I already have bloody body dismorphic disorder and this doesnt make things any easier.
I have been labeled a "lesbian" at two school because I look butch and cant help it. Do people think I can design my body or somthing?
I do like girls though, they are hot.
Sometimes I feel like a total freak and I get really stressed and depressed, I cant belive people can be so heartless and mean.
Has anyone else had this problem? ... and no im not hermaphrodite! Just probably hideous!

Hi, Blabble,
I once had an older (in their 50's) couple come into the store I worked at. These people were frequent customers. One day they asked for my assistance and I thought, okay, I'll help these nice ladies. So I started showing them our products, and addressed one as Ma'm, with no problem, but when I addressed her companion as Ma'm, too, it was really embarrassing to find out the second one was a dude! He was a little short fat guy, and somehow to me he just looked like a woman. And all these months of seeing these people in the store I had blindly assumed they were that nice lesbian couple.
Not everyone looks really one gender or the other. There is no polite way to outright ask someone what their gender is. If you feel androgynous, or neither one sex or the other, you may be putting out signals that don't telegraph your physical gender. It is important to people to be able to know the gender of others, so they know how to act with them. This seems unfair, like we should just accept a person for more than just the body he or she is in, but gender identity is so crucial in human interactions that it is understandable that people would ask you, even though it does seem rude.
If you do look a little masculine, and you do drop hints on purpose or unintentionally that you think girls are hot, these could be places where confusion is originating.
Who are these people that always question your gender? Are they school mates? They sound a little inexperienced to me.

No longer at school because I got bullied till I was a big mess. I am a quiet person and find it hard to talk when im amongst people I dont know, let alone people I think I hate. Anyway these people were kids who were random street go'ers ( I was actually at parks at the time of all incidents) they looked around 14 years of age. On the other two occasions the kids looked about 13 and the other incident 12. On the last occasion they thought I was a boy since I was wearing baggy clothing. I am 17 myself. Bah !!! people are mean.

Hi, Blabble,
Yeah, kids can be mean. I myself have always preferred the company of adults, even when I was a kid. Now that you are 17, you are on the cusp of adulthood. This will make it easier for you to find other adults to be with. Adults generally are not into the dumb crap kids tend to do, like bullying and teasing. Your views on the difficulties of social interaction might change for the better now.