Abit unsure on how I feel.

Well genderwise I already know what I feel like...born male yet feeling something other than male and something other than female. Not really a little off both but neither one. I don't really desire to have on body over the other though I think female body is kind of nice. Just I wouldn't feel any happier either way.
Just I seem to find comfort as being thought of as a female more than male...not sure how to say it but. I like how friendship is and being chatty with my online female friends. Some even think of me as their big sister. I've always been told I think like a girl more as well and have a slight female personality but not really to point that I seem like a guy trying to act female too. Some people didn't believe me when I told them I wasn't a girl.
I just feel confused because I find myself staring at some female clothing and seem to take interest in it over the male clothing though I prefer to wear jeans and T-shirts all the time because it feels so neutral to me.

Hey,


I'm sorry that nobody has replied here yet so I thought I might. I am male but have more female friends than male and it was only last week that a girl in my class said that I've got some 'girly' traits. I'm perfectly heterosexual, but I'm not a homophobe like many males are. I can tell which guys are attractive too and I sometimes find mysellf ogling at male models.

Are you homosexual?

Just I seem to find comfort as being thought of as a female more than male

Does this mean you find being seen with your male body 'uncomfortable'? Have you ever honestly asked yourself why this might be?

You say you wear particular clothes because they feel 'neutral'. How do you feel wearing clothes that are more masculine or more feminine? Is there some anxiety lurking in your background that you are perhaps only vaguely aware of?

No, I like girls and its not really how I am seen as to more how I am treated and thought of because of my body. Most people tend to stereotype often so I think it makes harder for people to understand me. As for clothing, I don't really find anything really masculine that great and I just feel weird in it...I don't know about other side or any anxiety.

Hi, Shinobu Hikaru,
I feel mostly male, although I occupy a nice female body. Androgynous would be the most accurate term for discribing me. I prefer men's clothes and interests, yet am heterosexual, for the most part.
Nobody is 100% xx or xy. We all are on a spectrum, with some people very male, some people very female, and some more towards the center of this spectrum. This is both a physical and emotional fact. Cell analysis has confirmed this.
Most cultures have rigid gender roles spelled out. So unless one is so fortunate as to live in a cosmopolitan city like San Francisco one will find more difficulties with gender issues if one is more towards the center of the spectrum.
We really need a third definition; we have male, female, and androgynous. It's all beautiful.

That's fabulous insight Puma; regarding the cosmopolitan Vs the 'small-town' when it comes to acceptance of - how should I say - differences in sexuality. The point about the sexuality 'spectrum' is good too. Where do you get all of this insight from!?

It's perfectly apt to me too: I'm male and am heterosexual but, because of the way I dress and act, many people think I'm gay. I also enjoy 'girly' things and find myself looking at pictures of attractive men sometimes.

Is there a specific type of female clothing that you are interested in, Shinobu? I don't know; this might be relevant.


Take care always,
Kevin.

I like the cute things, skirts and tank tops. Few other things.^^

Hi, Shinobu Hikaru,
Have you thought of wearing a men's sarong? They come in all kinds of great colors and patterns.
Also, if you like to cross dress and have the physique to pull it off, go for it. If you live in a tolerant environment, it can be alot of fun going out in one's finery. If your environment is not so tolerant, you can at least wear what you like at home.

Please check out the new post called "Why the issue?" I would be very interestd in your thoughts.