totally excepting

Were do i begin, Im a mother of 2 gorgeous boys aged 8 and almost 6 years and have parented on my own with little input from their dad for most of there lives. The youngest child is and has been for a couple of years now been experiencing what i believe is a form of depression. As a young child he went through all the stages of dressing up and playing with girl things and this didnt alarm me in any way what so ever. I let him be what he wanted and play with what he wanted and was happy he enjoyed it. He seemed to have a glow about him when he was able to dress up and pretend to be a girl. He would say"Mummy when i grow up i want to be just like you",or when we watched a program where a lady kisses a man he'd say "Mummy I wish i could be that girl so that boys could kiss me like that". Other than my older son showing dislike to his younger brothers likes, I taught him to be excepting of people and life seemed fine appart from the anger and unruly behaviour from the youngest which one puts down to being a kid. This year my son started school and started out loving it to bits but as i predicted would happen he has found it very hard to sociallise or even talk to the other boys and hasnt an interest in mixing with them at all. A few times he would come home very sad as the girls had told him he couldnt play with them as they were allergic to boys!. and from there the problems have started. His teacher has expressed her concerned about him, the first few weeks she thought he was the best kid in the class,then all of a sudden his anger and unruly manner seemed to carry on at school. She recommended he see the school counsellor which we did i told her of his behaviour of extreme highs and lows,his anger, his thoughts of hating his life and wishing he was dead. She sat in class and observed his behaviour. And she refered him onto another system dealing with children and mental health issues. I am waiting to get into this system and should be able to see someone shortly but in the meantime his extreme depression on life itself upsets me i just wish i could help him . He in my oppinion seemed to struggle with his gender and i dont mean to sound to be jumping to conclusions as this is something that ive obsereved for some years now. Im also wondering if anyone can help me find out at roughly what age a child knows they are somewhat attracted to the opposite sex??. I dont care what my son grows up to be i just want him to be happy and ill be there for him ever step of the way i just hope i can make it a little easy for him if life gets hard by helping him through it with all my love and support. He can be such a beautiful natured boy I just wish i could take all the problems he seemes to have for him... So as i said we wait for some help and try to deal with each day as it comes.. For his sixth birthday coming up shortly he has told me all he wants is a cinderella dress, high heel shoes and a wand. Im going to make sure he gets exactly want he wishes for..

Id love to hear from parents or people with similar situations..

hi browneyedgirl...I am a 15 year old girl and I actually to tell you the truth I cant remember a time when I wasnt attracted to girls. I believe that the feelings start to come at a very young age and it's something that you cant control and I think as a parent you are doing the best thing you can for him right now by just accepting who he wants to be and not trying to force him to do what boys, steriotypically, should do. My biggest concern for him is that he is very young right now and most kids at that age dont understand things like that so it will probably be hard for him to make friends, but once he does find that one friend that will understand that he is what he is and just be there for him I think things will be much better for him (and believe me there are many people out there who will judge him but there are also many people who will stand behind him and stand up for him through all of this). I am very sorry that your son has to deal with depression at such a young age it is a really hard thing to go through but hopefully he will find help and things will get much better.Good luck and I hope things turn out good.

Hi Kayty, Thankyou very much for your reply. my pain isnt with what he is or what he may be but as a mother i dont want him to be judged and sadly society judges and it stinks. but as you say there are genuine people out there that will expect people as humans of all walks of life and thats truly comforting. Im also glad to hear that its not just myself that believes attraction to either sex begins early.. even if they dont understand why themselves.

Thankyou again
goodluck in life and take care

Yourwelcome

PS. My pain isnt with what he is either its with the fact that he has to deal with it at such a young age because it is a hard thing to go through, even as you get older.

Well, is it just me, or are relationships the hardest part about all of this? It certainly has been for me, I know that...

just wanted to say I wish my mother could have been like,brown eyed girl.When I young she caught me in her clothes and was absolutely furious. It made me so upset and ashamed so from then on I've kept my gender issues a secret which was so hard during my school years.I have bi polar or something similar now and have had 3 serious episodes and am still totally confused and dare not tell anyone that a great deal of the time I have feelings of wanting to be female which I hide and hope will go.

hi i am a 17 y/o boy witch has his own problems like i haf read here this kind of behavior can star at a verry yong age i know thate becus i started to have those kind of fealing at the age of about 8-9 i was happy whane i culd dress up like a girl and now i am efen starting to get transgender feling i got the times i wish i was a girl
like your sun i dident reay fit in white the boys and loved to play white girls still i got more female freands thane male ones and like you boy i got a verry understanding mother witch dosent care how i feel as long as i am happy

i hope you gave your boy whate he wanted becus i never had the posebility to do thate kind of thing whane i was small still if i like to wear girl clothes i need to do it whitout someone knowing becus my little bro and little sis still dont understand how i fit togetter