by NewLife2017 » Fri Jul 19, 2019 5:01 pm
NewSunRising,
I am doing ok, I have had some devastating setbacks in my life and am trying to find a new path career wise, partially out of having no other choice and partially from wanting to run away from any connection with my old career for various reasons. I have begun training for a new career and I am scared because my self esteem took a beating with gambling and my past actions. I know that no matter what gambling can only hurt me. I have to be vigilant about caring for myself, which sounds kind of crazy.
I have begun reading a book entitled The Thinking Life, How to Thrive in the Age of Distraction, by PM Forni, I sometimes buried myself in gambling to not have to face the abuse I was taking on my previous job. There are so many ways to distract ourselves, but I want to think and live not just take up time. I want to be mindful in my actions.
Before I gambled I had hope and built some belief in myself, which took dedicated effort, time and education. Then gambling really reduced me to feeling unworthy to even live at times (feeling I would be better off dead), unworthy of treating myself ok. I have to build myself again and realize that I can't test or tempt myself that its not just a bump or scrape, but will be a complete catastrophe.
I really struggle with internal hatred and shame. I have to push myself to be active in being around the right kind of people, not accepting abusive work situations and being disciplined and purposeful in my life to get beyond a walking gambling skeleton and really live. I cannot take an attitude of "no big deal", when I know it is a big deal.
I don't know if I answered your question as to how I am doing, but I attempt to work each day toward improvement, meaning, not self destructing behaviors and coming up with a plan.
Thank you for asking