60k debt in 2 months

Hello
I have never posted here but i was used to always read the topics, so it's my first time posting.
I have been gambling a 8 years after i lost my father, i started just for kill time not knowing where it would lead me, if i knew i would never had made a single dollar bet because only me,the "gamblers" and ex-gamblers here know how much pain and suffer it can cause to someone's life.
I never have done gamble to make easy money or something like that, it was a escape for somethings that happened in my life and also a escape for my several depression and anxiety problems but with time i got hooked up and it started get really bad, i was used to stay sometimes almost 48 hours without eat and sleep playing slot machines online, winning, losing, chasing losses and almost going insane because all of this, also dealing with my depression and anxiety which is really bad in a point that i can not leave my house alone, i have made $60k in debt on my credit card in this past 2 months that i will can not pay plus in all these years i have lost around $100k+ and i can tell i didn't spent $100 or less on myself but was easily spending $1000 in a single bet.
I feel hopeless about my life, not only about the money lost because it's gone, i have lost all i had,
but hopeless that i can not have a normal life going out alone, looking for a job or anything, im totally restricted to do it and it's just normal things in life, i just feel like im dead throwed in a bed unwilling to do anything, even take a shower and I do treatment for this yes.
I just needed to say that, i wish for who still struggling for don't give up and for who that could stop for keep going and don't let the relapses gets on. Stay strong.

Thank you

Much too often, people use gambling to escape their woes in life; it's a very trite cliche, but it's going from the frying pan into the fire, IMHO. Once caught up in the cycle of losing and chasing and misery, one must realize that it's a bad mistake, and extricate oneself from it. After a while, some people even continue just to "punish" themselves, because they have lost some self-esteem through the losses.
It's similar it to falling into a hole. (Some people jump into it, voluntarily) You can get out if you really try hard enough. It takes a great determination and resolve that you want to live a different life; one that gives you a better chance for happiness. But you have to make up your mind to do it, quit for good, and get some help, maybe at GA meetings. Get up and save yourself. You deserve a better life.
Many others have done it; even some in a deeper hole than you.

Thanks for the reply 58gambling

Stay strong,
Me too I'm in the same situation like you but with almost 20k in debt and I started a plan in my mind saying to myself " bookies, they won ", it is time myself to move on, accept the losess and concentrating paying debt, starting a new life. I understand perfectly how you feel, I started 14 years ago and until last year I had lost almost 60K in 13 years of gambling in losses ( not in debt ) and last 4 months of 2017 I was adding another 20k but this time on credit card.
So, after this I had a conversation with myself realizing that I'm destroing my life and I will lose my family if I will continue like this and who knows after that...
When I started to feel good and paid some of money debt, I find out that I forgot to pay a big amount of taxes for my house from last year .... because of gambling, gambling taxes money saying to my wife that I already paid the taxes.But, that's ok, this will pass and better days will came around.
So, be positive, stay strong and find that power to move on at something positive. It will be very hard, I know because I'm dealing with same feelings of frustration,regret and low self esteem.
Be well

PS sorry for my English, I'm french canadien

You need to find what is motivating you to stay away from gambling.NSR asking me what is my goal after paying my debt ? Very intelligent question because often after you pay debt you may feel wanted to gamble again but I know what I will do myself....After paying my debt I will put aside some money EVERY MONTH like continue to pay debt and after that I will go to a nice vacation.
This motivating me and give me strenght.
I know you feel very low right now but remember that in life they are things that money cannot buy like health for example.People who are diagnosed with cancer for example they would pay all the money in the world to be healthy again.I mean debt it’s not the worst in your life as long as you stop and concentrate on paying

Thanks Gabone25 for your reply

Roman R, do you know what triggers your anxiety? Does your anxiety lead to panic attacks? What do you try to do to alleviate your anxiety?

Gambling might seem like a temporary fix, but it actually makes it a lot worst. Gambling leads to severe depression, anxiety because you can’t help but think about those long hard hours you work to in order to make that. Also deep down you know your digging yourself into a hole and you ignore and ignore it until you hit a brick wall. All that time depression builds up, anxiety builds up whenever you think about the situation your in. The only fix you know is gambling, but it doesn’t fix anything it makes it worst as you go through this cycle over and over again. Gambling robs you of your possession, time, time away from friends and family. It is not an escape ... it robs you of everything you have. You can make money back, but you can’t get time back. It might seem impossible to understand right now but you can have great enjoyment spending time with family and friends. I never thought I can get the same thrill doing something else if I stopped gambling.... well I was wrong. (Almost 2 and a half years gambling free)

Seek your local gamblers anonymous, they will listen to you understand what you are going through, they will not judge you, it’s a place to be heard and get help.

So simple but in mean time so deep and powerful what you said.Indeed, you can make money back but time will not come back.And while gambling you cannot enjoy simple things in your life.

Thanks prologx

I have depression and anxiety problems from a long time before start gambling, i have been struggling with this a 17 years, i don't have panic attacks anymore but my depression and anxiety is really bad, i take medicine from depression and anxiety but for real it never worked for me, somedays i can't even go to a grocery store alone or even for a simple walk on street and it kills me because is just simple things i can't do it, gambling just made it 200% worse.
I agree in everything you said and it's right, gambling just destroy you in every aspect you can imagine, it takes your life and robs everything you have as you said.
At the moment i am doing nothing for try alleviate my anxiety because im on a stage i can't barely leave my bed, It has not been easy for me.

Roman R,

Have you tried the Dare method? Please look it up at amazon for “Dare Barry Mcdonagn” if you haven’t. I use to have anxiety and panic attacks. Now I seldom do. Basically the dare method is to try and get you to find that fear that’s causing your anxiety, so you go looking for it and let it hit you hard.... once you know fear is nothing it fades. Anxiety is fearing something that you think may happen, or fearing that it will lead to full blown panic attack, once you know that fear is just your body responses and you know your safe, you overcome it. It takes a while and you really have to try it. Hope it helps