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Postby WTFDIDIDO » Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:46 am

Ok I have DID so it will make it harder but at this point I will appreciate any advice on how to stop betting on sports. Ive lost grands I cant take it anymore but also cant stop
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Re: How do I quite

Postby NewSunRising » Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:26 pm

Welcome WTFDIDIDO ,

Quitting gambling is possible but it isn't easy and it isn't quick . I highly recommend GA and if that is not an option , confiding in a trusted friend or relative . This disease thrives in the dark . Keeping it secret allows it to grow stronger with every gamble .

Telling someone we have a problem that we can't overcome on our own is not easy - there's an element of embarrassment and a common assumption among non-gambling addicts that we should be able to " just quit ." There is little understanding of just how hard that is . But coming clean to someone and asking for help does two things - it gives us valuable support and a lifeline for the time when we are struggling with the urges and it makes us accountable for our actions .

It would be helpful if you could avoid watching sports and being around people you know who are still gambling on them . Find a new interest and immerse yourself in it . Self-exclude at any betting shops that you use , delete any websites you use for betting if you do it online .

Not watching sports is not a forever thing , but until you can feel the urge to bet and shut it down without a struggle , it is vital that you avoid anything that could trigger you .

You are welcome to come here anytime for support ! We will help you any way we can .
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Re: How do I quite

Postby WTFDIDIDO » Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:35 pm

NewSunRising wrote:Welcome WTFDIDIDO ,

Quitting gambling is possible but it isn't easy and it isn't quick . I highly recommend GA and if that is not an option , confiding in a trusted friend or relative . This disease thrives in the dark . Keeping it secret allows it to grow stronger with every gamble .

Telling someone we have a problem that we can't overcome on our own is not easy - there's an element of embarrassment and a common assumption among non-gambling addicts that we should be able to " just quit ." There is little understanding of just how hard that is . But coming clean to someone and asking for help does two things - it gives us valuable support and a lifeline for the time when we are struggling with the urges and it makes us accountable for our actions .

It would be helpful if you could avoid watching sports and being around people you know who are still gambling on them . Find a new interest and immerse yourself in it . Self-exclude at any betting shops that you use , delete any websites you use for betting if you do it online .

Not watching sports is not a forever thing , but until you can feel the urge to bet and shut it down without a struggle , it is vital that you avoid anything that could trigger you .

You are welcome to come here anytime for support ! We will help you any way we can .


Thanks for the reply and support! I used to bet online and then pay/pick up the weekly winnings loses from my bookie(s) (in 2 years on/off I never once picked up as even postive weeks were merely deducted from my on going debt). When I stopped for good (a few times they cut me off simply due to being unable to pay but when I did I would go back at it) I actually did not watch sports for around a month

Despite not betting online for 3 or so months now ever since I got my new job I started making bets just via the offical lottery filling up at least 1 $50 ticket a week and this week alone i lost 3 tickets total $200 (this is actually not much given online I would regulary lose $500- which wad my limit otherwise I might have lost more)

My problem is sports is my biggest passion and I am actually very knowledable and I have had some big wins. Problem is I have made well over 5000 bets (this is a low amount but some weeks alone I would make 200+ and in a blink of an eye I could go from -300 to plus 1000 back to -500 and then lose my $#%^ wait for Monday and more often than not lose another 500 by tuesday. Or weeks I was able to be up come the weekend I would still find a way to lose it instead of simply taking the plus and wiating- yes I know this is bad and honeslty it is worse than I can explain in text or feel comfortable talking about (so the actual amount I lost is irrelevant- not that I kept track anyway- but ive been in a huge amount of debt last 2 years and I would spend 3 hours lectures betting and looking into things and stay up till 4am for example to watch tennis games). I was reckless to say the least.

Again right now it is no where near as bad but I still want to stop for good I am worried I am close to relapsing big time and if I ever go back to any online betting, it will be really bad

The mircle (and i guess a benefit of DID) is I somehow held down 3 very respectable jobs in this time (sadly only internships) and managed to get a degree but the vast majority of every penny I earned has gone to pay my debt (and feed my pot/drinking needs)

DID is very tricky because I can type this and say I am not the indvidual I described above but clearly I have personalities who are and as much as I wish all this was merely in my head it actually happened (even though I do not have full memory or recollections of a lot of bets- again I was reckless and often not in control)

Sorry if this is crazy and what not but again my DID is extremely complex and this is why I worry. I was figjting myself for a long time not to make a recent $50 bet but ultimately could not win and I walked over to the convince filled it in all while feeling like I was watching myself and could not do anything to stop myself

Also a couple of really good friends know my situation and are very supportive but they could not stop me from making 2am bets- no one could

To this day I am still in debt (it is not all betting as I had school plus other issuess I will not get into here- it is just crazy to think the amount of hours I worked to still be in debt). I justify this to myself by blaming my disorder and telling myself I still got valuable experience and all this while struggling to get a degree and dealing with other personal/family issues

On the bright side I should be fully debt free end of moth and start fresh in 2018 so maybe just maybe this will help me never make another bet again but again I doubt it
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Re: How do I quite

Postby Wally58 » Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:55 pm

As stated, the 12-steps of Gamblers Anonymous (GA) has helped millions around the world overcome their gambling addiction. It takes a lot of Courage and Honesty, but even those with personal issues like DID can recover if they stick at it. 90 meetings in 90 days is a good way to get started.
You will find those who felt like you do. You can still enjoy your sports with new found friends that have found life without gambling.
They are happy and take care of themselves and their responsibilities. They are there for support and for each other:
http://www.gamcare.org.uk/forum/gambler ... et-best-it
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Re: How do I quite

Postby WTFDIDIDO » Sun Dec 17, 2017 6:33 am

Relapsed again ://
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Re: How do I quite

Postby blue_green_lake » Sun Dec 17, 2017 11:19 am

WTFDIDIDO wrote:Relapsed again ://


The money you lost is not the issue. Your own health and safety are what matters. You deserve better than to be in this self-harming cycle. Don't chase the money lost. Try to be the most serene person you can be TODAY.
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Postby WTFDIDIDO » Sun Dec 17, 2017 2:23 pm

blue_green_lake wrote:
WTFDIDIDO wrote:Relapsed again ://


The money you lost is not the issue. Your own health and safety are what matters. You deserve better than to be in this self-harming cycle. Don't chase the money lost. Try to be the most serene person you can be TODAY.


Its so complicated. I was blaming another part of me for losing the transit pass. This part felt hurt and upset so we decided a $50 dollar ticket would cheer everyone up. I know it makes no sense what I do but I am just so messed up sometimes. On thr bright side I could win 500 still
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Postby blue_green_lake » Sun Dec 17, 2017 3:12 pm

WTFDIDIDO wrote:I know it makes no sense what I do but I am just so messed up sometimes. On the bright side I could win 500 still


Money gained in gambling is not a "win." It's temporary bait. It keeps you in the mindset, and hooked for future losses down the road.
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Postby NewSunRising » Sun Dec 17, 2017 4:03 pm

I know it seems like a chance to make money but the reality is that it is a dangerous and destructive cycle . If one of your system were becoming addicted to narcotics , how would you try to address that issue ? It is very important that you all understand how quickly this can spin out of control and how very difficult it is to break the addiction's hold once it does .
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Re: How do I quite

Postby WTFDIDIDO » Sun Dec 17, 2017 9:19 pm

NewSunRising wrote:I know it seems like a chance to make money but the reality is that it is a dangerous and destructive cycle . If one of your system were becoming addicted to narcotics , how would you try to address that issue ? It is very important that you all understand how quickly this can spin out of control and how very difficult it is to break the addiction's hold once it does .


Well I took Browns plus 9 as 1 of 4 picks so there goes another $50. Last night was bad lost my transit pass, went on a blind date that I barely remember and feel like even though I really liked her and she was laughing/smilling I likey scared her off (partially cause i mentioned my betting history)

Also I am asexual so sports has always been a passion and to the narrcotics point I use the Green regulary

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Btw I really appreciate the replies
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