Women in their 30's and 40's. This a fetish?

chamomile_tea wrote:How on earth could having sex age someone? How could sex age women in particular? If so, does masturbating also age women? Or do penises do it somehow (like that old myth that lots of sex makes a woman's vagina loose)? And how do the men where you live "stand up to" the cold winters but not the women? Also, plenty of women I've known seem to have a surge in libido as they get into their 30s. Maybe it doesn't hold true where you live if many of the men have the same misogynistic beliefs as you do. I personally had an extensive sexual experimental phase since I was 15 and a few long-term relationships...I seldom have had a "drought" that lasted longer than a few weeks since I was 15 or so. And people mistake me for a college freshman. I also go in the sun a lot and used to have terrible habits and don't spend money of fancy facial creams... go figure, I think sex keeps me young and healthy...

But back to the OP's issue, unless you cannot get aroused whatsoever by any women of a different age group, it's more likely a preference as others have said. I think that 'fetish' is thrown around a lot and now colloquially means "strong sexual preference" rather than "must have it paraphila."

Either way it's super common. When I worked at a strip club during the day (bad for money but better than staying up til 5am), A LOT of the men would look at me and request someone older. In fact the older women did amazingly well and got tons of attention from guys aged 18 on up to retired men.

I have this strange attraction to women in their 30's and 40's.