Using lucid dreaming to engage?

Hi there.

I have written about lucid dreaming in other parts of the forum but not here before. I use lucid dreaming a lot to help me process what is happening and even more serious things like processing trauma memories and their affects on me now.

What I have also done though, is use lucid dreaming as a way to engage in my fetishes in a way that doesn't require having a partner present when that has been an issue. I would imagine engaging in a dangerous or harmful fetish on a subconscious level like this might not be a good idea, but for those that for instance have a pregnancy fetish (like me) or like older people (like me) or have something like a foot fetish or a fetish for long hair for instance, that it could provide an outlet that may feel more realistic than merely fantasizing.

In lucid dreaming I find that I can have all senses intact, and after a while I was able to control what happens in the dreams.

Have anyone else tried something like this or have any experience with it?

The best I can ever achieve is being aware that I'm dreaming. Control as such, for me, is limited. It's much more like a film that's been all shot in my point of view than an interactive virtual reality. To use the film analogy again, it's like I'm the camera man wondering around the set while the scene unfolds but I don't get to write the script.
Also my dreams in general are rarely sexual. I wonder what that means...

Cool concept though! Wish I could do it haha

I hardly ever used to have sexual dreams either (and in another thread I noticed that many paraphilic/fetish users here also reported the same), but in lucid dreaming I can decide for myself.

Lucid dreaming can take practice and at this point I can mostly decide myself what happens. I can't always decide every little detail (which is interesting because I can ponder about why my subconscious is putting in what it is putting in), but I can decide the general direction of the dreams though often I can also simply decide what happens.

It's something to handle with caution though.

It can be fun something too though of course

Got any advice on how to do it? I've researched it quite a bit but as I say can never get much further than simply being aware that I'm dreaming.

I think it takes a lot of focus at first. What some people find helps them to realize they are lucid dreaming is to find an object in real life and try to place that in their dreams (e.g focus on that they will see "x object" in their dream) as that can trigger one to realize that "oh, yeah that meant that this is a dream".

As for gaining the ability to actually decide for yourself, it took some practice but mostly I tended to focus and try to do it and after enough time and sort of trying to relax while dreaming and access more of a subconscious level, which helped.

Now I can usually decide what happens with a lot of ease though I sometimes end up on the verge of waking up and force myself back to sleep and continue there, though sometimes I then lose the ability for the first few "minutes" (what feels like minutes) to control it.

I think it's different for different people though. I've had a huge amount of lucid dreams though from a young age (usually several times a week since age 4-5 or so) and didn't use to have anything else growing up until about age 10, and even then it was usually either lucid or nightmares, one or the other. So I've probably had my fair share of practice

That's really interesting. I'll maybe give it a second shot. I often find that when I'm aware I'm dreaming, it's because I've woken up (realised that I had just been in a dream), then immediately fell back over and into that same dream.
I'll try the object thing. Any object or type of object that works particularly well? Does it need to be specific or is it better to be generic?

I would very likely take advantage of this if I was able to Lucid Dream at all. Why must winter be so cold! I need to work so I can afford a Lucid Dreaming Mask!

You're all way too lucky for your own good!

My subconscious and I don't get along well. It actively works to snap me back into a non-aware dream state.

First time I noticed this behavior was when I managed to bypass a reoccurring nightmare and force myself to wake up, only to find myself on a bus full of zombies telling me I wasn't getting away that easy.

Something similar happened when I attempted to use another lucid dreaming experience to engage sexually with a neighbor. After flying and passing through a wall before groping the dream character, the response I got was geared toward making me doubt I was dreaming and to shame me for having actually done that in real life. (I didn't, but the dream wanted me to believe I had.)

I wish my subconscious would layoff and let me just enjoy a lucid dream like that, but it doesn't look like it's going to.

I kind of disappeared for a while sorry

That's really interesting. I'll maybe give it a second shot. I often find that when I'm aware I'm dreaming, it's because I've woken up (realised that I had just been in a dream), then immediately fell back over and into that same dream.
I'll try the object thing. Any object or type of object that works particularly well? Does it need to be specific or is it better to be generic?

I've heard the case made for it to be a generic item or specific item so I'm not sure. Personally I haven't had to work up this as I started lucid dreaming very young. So I'm not too much help there, sorry.

I would very likely take advantage of this if I was able to Lucid Dream at all. Why must winter be so cold! I need to work so I can afford a Lucid Dreaming Mask!

You're all way too lucky for your own good!

Have you tried to train the ability to lucid dream?

It really is nice sometimes

My subconscious and I don't get along well. It actively works to snap me back into a non-aware dream state.

First time I noticed this behavior was when I managed to bypass a reoccurring nightmare and force myself to wake up, only to find myself on a bus full of zombies telling me I wasn't getting away that easy.

Something similar happened when I attempted to use another lucid dreaming experience to engage sexually with a neighbor. After flying and passing through a wall before groping the dream character, the response I got was geared toward making me doubt I was dreaming and to shame me for having actually done that in real life. (I didn't, but the dream wanted me to believe I had.)

I wish my subconscious would layoff and let me just enjoy a lucid dream like that, but it doesn't look like it's going to.

Sorry to hear about your experiences with this.

I've not had that many lucid dreams for a while now as I've well, not slept much in a while. Hopefully that changes soon