Satin Fetish

I'm going to try to make this as brief as possible, I'm drunk and don't won't to ramble. But a recent event tonight spurred me to talk again to people about this. I have a satin fetish since 6th grade, I'm 31 now. It's grown more intense over the years to where any girl that I'm attracted to, I almost insist that she wears satin while we have sex. If not, I get let down. I can have sex without it, if the girl is attractive enough mentally/physically to me, but it's like parmesan on spaghetti, it's so much better with it than without it. And it helps me focus and get hard quick quick, else my mind wanders, focus is lost, and takes longer for me to get hard. Tonight me and my 1st ex hung out, were drinking, and had a discussion about the past, and how she felt insecure because she had to wear satin 99% of the time we had sex rather than be naked. To me, I enjoy the visuals and the feel, and satin adds an extreme amount of pleasure in general, it makes me feel comfortable yet extremely aroused. I've tried accepting this, but tonights conversation brought back questions to my head. Am I wrong for asserting my fetish upon someone? I've always wanted to give what they wanted as long as they gave me what I wanted, but her point was you do the same thing long enough you get tired of it. Advice please? I'm stuck.

Satin sheets? Feel lovely on the skin, but doesn't require any dressing up on your partner's part. Perhaps that will fulfill the tactile aspect of the fetish enough that the visual element can be varied more, to include full nakedness as well as dressing for bed.

I can see both sides of the issue. In general, as long as no-one's being hurt [emotionally or mentally, which covers unwilling physical too] then fetishes are there to be indulged in. And since you're willing to participate in hers, that should be balanced. However, yes, I can see how doing things the same way [especially if that's causing insecurity about the way she looks too] might be difficult. Where do you stand on you wearing satin? Boxer shorts would be easy. Shirts might not go with your personal style, but if they did, would be alternate ways to meet your desire without it being so repetitive to your partner.

Would say it'd only be wrong if it came about well into a relationship when it wasn't present at the beginning. Like "oh btw, I only enjoy sex if you're wearing satin" the night before you get married. If relationships begin with this clearly understood then it's not objectionable or unfair since people knew it going in.

Hi,

I had a similar problem with my last gf and my fetish for stuffed animals...I could only become interested in sex if they were involved. Sad to say, it was a big problem for us and one which we never fully resolved before the relationship ended. I been there... sometimes no matter what you do and even fi you go to lengths to satisfy her needs, girls will not always take kindly to the unknown. Your girlfriend said that doing the same thing over and over became borring...but having sex is technically the same thing over and over...and no one finds that one a dull activity to repeat!

MJ

Hi,

I had a similar problem with my last gf and my fetish for stuffed animals...I could only become interested in sex if they were involved. Sad to say, it was a big problem for us and one which we never fully resolved before the relationship ended. I been there... sometimes no matter what you do and even fi you go to lengths to satisfy her needs, girls will not always take kindly to the unknown. Your girlfriend said that doing the same thing over and over became borring...but having sex is technically the same thing over and over...and no one finds that one a dull activity to repeat!

MJ