could use some advice

Hi, this is the first time ive posted on here, or anywhere on the internet besides facebook lol. Im a 22 year old male, I have a girlfriend and we are sexually active. Before I posted this I read a lot on this website about incest fantasies. I have to say it made me feel a little better. Ive watched incest themed porn since I was in high school but have had long periods of not watching it because the guilt, shame and anxiety that comes along after watching it. mostly mother/son, brother/sister stuff. What turns me on most is the mother/son fantasy. It makes me feel like $#%^ though. Id never have sex wih my own mom, i wouldnt want to ruin the relationship we already have. When i was growing up my mom was all i had until she met my stepdad. Ive spent alot of time trying to figure out why i have the fantasy. Maybe because i grew up with a single mom? Or maybe because i didnt get to spend as much time with her when my stepdad came into the picture? I know theres usually underlying reasons for such fantasies.Ive talked to a couple very close friends about it, and they seem not to think its a huge deal or anything. I have chronic anxiety and am almost a year clean from pill addiction. I feel like one of the reasons I got high was because of the shame this has caused. It sucks to because ill sometimes think of these fantasies while me and my gf are having sex. I can get off without thinking about it, but I get off better If I am. With the problems that may have been caused from this, can I play out this fantasy in a healthy manner? Maybe become open to my gf about it? I dunno howd she react though. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated

Hello, and welcome.

Unfortunately, I don't have any great advice that will make this go away, but if I've learned anything from this forum, it's that if you make a big deal out of your fetish and let it rule you're mind, then, well, it will be a big deal in your life and it will rule your mind! If you accept it and realize it's just a weird part of who you are, then you'll have a much easier time dealing with it.

I don't have an incest fetish, but I do have my fair share of sexually abnormalities, so I know how you feel. And I also had an opiate addiction that I used, in part, to cover up the thoughts I have.

Plus, Sigmund Freud had that theory that, deep down, every male subconsciously wants to have sex with their mother, so maybe it's not that uncommon!

I for one do have this fetish. I believe that, for me at least, the attraction to it is simply the strong taboo of it. In real life I actually recoil to the idea of myself being with a family member, but the fantasy of incest as an idea carried out by others is highly erotic. This is doubled by the fact that I have strong sexualization towards the "fictional medium" as I call it: sexual fantasy, fictional writing, 2d media such as art and animation.

Honestly I see no real reason to feel ashamed of yourself. It's just a fetish, everyone has them.