Support for Non-Histrionic Personality Disorder

I have known a histrionic woman for 2 yrs and I have been on this forum for a year and a half. The only true statement and recommendation I can make is STAY AWAY FROM ANY ACTIVE PATHOLOGICAL HISTRIONIC. Not unlike psychopaths, they are master actresses and they lie so easily. After enough exposure you will find that you are becoming their conscience and as you gradually go crazy from the stress their self- esteem increases and they become megalomaniacal.

Dating or associating with a histrionic is like playing Russian Roulette, except she won't let you die.
They are true emotional vampires and they enjoy hurting men...its a way to displace their own pain.

There are certain individuals on psych forums who will claim I am smearing or painting with a broad brush but I don't know them...but I do know what I have read and dammit I know what I have been through with the person I know ...I would give anything to go back in time and obliterate her presence from my life.

Orion wrote: The only true statement and recommendation I can make is STAY AWAY FROM ANY ACTIVE PATHOLOGICAL HISTRIONIC

Yes..the best thing to do is RUN.

Orion wrote: There are certain individuals on psych forums who will claim I am smearing or painting with a broad brush but I don't know them...but I do know what I have read and dammit I know what I have been through with the person I know ...I would give anything to go back in time and obliterate her presence from my life.

I do agree my experience wasn't pleasant ! lol However, my experience taught me what I really wanted in a significant other/life partner. Sometimes, for what ever "reason" , we get that a little confused at times.

OK

okherewego212 wrote:
Yes..the best thing to do is RUN.

OK

OK

What if, in running or retreating, you find yourself actively pursued...i.e. she won't accept no contact and starts aggressively interfering into your personal life.
What events compelled you to seek a restraining order (PM me if too personal to put out here).

Thanx

Orion,

I sent you a PM. I prefer not to go into detail on the open forum.

OK

What about when 'no contact' can only be a long term goal? How do we successfully interact without becoming emotional livestock?

samwatkins wrote:What about when 'no contact' can only be a long term goal? How do we successfully interact without becoming emotional livestock?

Unless you work with the person or they are in your classes at school I can't see why no contact shouldn't be pursued right away. If you work with them or go to school with them just be polite but distant...if they are aggressive ignore them. If they won't leave you alone start keeping records and note witnesses, etc. RO is the last resort.

Interesting, more and more the word is getting around; here is an interesting video (for Nons or HPD 's confidently in recovery) re GF's who are "psycho" which of course is street slang for anyone with some kind of mental illness or PD.

http://www.askmen.com/video/entertainme ... video.html

You know what I dont understand. I havent had contact with my HPD since September. Shes also done alot of things to hurt me and my reputation in that time. Anyone that has done that to me in the past I wouldnt care if they were to rot in hell. But I think I miss this chick. Not to get back with her but just to hang out.

Do you have friends?

anonymous1 wrote:Do you have friends?

Not sure if your meaning me but yes I have very good friends and family that are giving me lots of support and advice.

To the Original Poster-- I totally felt those emotions 5 years ago (2007) upon the breakup of an on-off 7 year relationship with a histrionic.

Background: We met at 16, and instantly I was pulled in, things escalated to the point where love letters and cards written with expressive emotions-- all that I've still kept today at age 26. She had a very poor relationship with her mother and father-- (kaboom!)

She always had a background of seeking male attention, very flirtatious, very attractive, extremely sexual -- and now looking back at it, craved attention constantly.

We started dating in 1999, and by 2006 out of the blue she wanted to break up with me (later I learned she was cheating the entire semester with another guy). May 13, 2007 she told me: "you know AJ, how much I care about you... I know you'd make me very happy."

And 2 days later-- May 15th, 2007-- she breaks up for no reason, leaving me baffled for 5 years.

She must have 1 ounce of empathy. Recently, she came back into my life as we crossed paths. She told me how she went to therapy after falling into depression after the breakup of her last relationship, and she told me how she no longer smokes weed or tries to pickup guys at bars. (All behaviors she never did Pre-Age 21).

My future goal: I want to manipulate her into seeking therapy...by offering low doses of attention, and pulling it away...and ultimately just handing her a stack of journal articles, books and blogs (from here) about Histrionic.

She'd have to be a retard not to realize it-- in the past she admitted the need for male attention. She even cried and told me she wish she wasn't this way and didn't know what to do.

Her friends are selfish, her parents are aloof-- If I don't convince her into therapy, she'll end up with no career (already half there), possibly suicidal, or with some STD.

For those of you who have succesfully helped someone, how should I convince her into sustained therapy? (> 6 months)

I appreciate all the advice-- and trust me-- time heals all wounds. Advice: Read Siddarth by Herman Hesse or other Buddhism related literature,....it helped me!

Thanks a million everyone!