Non-Narcissistic Support thread.....

Ah... So fatkid8 is the new resident pathological narcissist eh?

Welcome #####&.

I think it is really important to be honest with yourself if you are trying to resolve or get past issues that was devalued and the relationship that ended by an N. It bothers that it is hatred I feel for people like this. I do have a friend involved with an N as well and have always felt hatred towards him too. It comes from a feeling that they are operating in an unnatural way that only serves them. That is just unnatural and morally wrong to me. It goes against my belief in love. I am not God to judge. I am being honest that is all. I feel wrong having revenge in my heart. I am still on the fence. At least I'm half way forgiving. A note to Jake8 or any member feeling contempt. I have the ability and harbor the pleasure to attack people put them in their place. I was so angry I picked a different forum and I was banned. I was the troll members depended on being banned every night. I was given the Golden Cxxt Award and when a member insinuated she had that honor, I was on her with every one of her issues and giving it to her, till she had me banned. I have no idea why I was compelled to do this. But I finally got bored and some members disappointed as if I lost my strength because it was my time I got real. In spite of my obnoxious behavior, some members saw thru all this and have become my friend. We are all human beings. I think it is true, there is a missing link if you think like an N. A spiritual link. Everything is superficial. The value of a person is their heart. That seems to be missing. But N's are people hiding their heart. We are not that much different. I feel contempt too. I am dealing with it now. I just know what its like not having that feeling at all. Its GREAT! It really is. I was like that before I met Mr. N. For him, contempt is part of his world. I think it is possible for any body to change that reality.

jake8 is ballin'. there i said it.

I was actually hoping to learn something from this...what draws someone to a person with narc traits...how people can help eachother to cope without taking it personally...people who are involved with someone who is lacking empathy can find it in a forum like this for sure.

Think of it as a form of validation....from what I understand, narcs like so much validation it turns to admiration. Imagine a narc saying to another narc they know what it's like to be admired and isn't it great to be so momentarily fulfilled? And the other narc says, yep it sure is...It's helpful for normals to share strategies that have helped them take responsibility for their own happiness. Normals strive for longer-term stable happiness...not the Chinese food kind that leaves you hungry for more an hour later. They're not afraid to support eachother in achieving it. They don't consider it a weakness.

oh oops I guess I should be posting here. Sorry to offend anyone.

No offense to the creator of this thread but frankly the title should be a heck of a lot more clear. I would have had no problem posting here and leaving the community to it's intended purpose. I just never understood what this section was supposed to be. Confusing name.

Hello (echo echo echo)?

books for people to read:

Facing Love Addiction – Pia Mellody
Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
Beyond Codependency – Melody Beattie

mother_to_babe wrote:books for people to read:
Facing Love Addiction – Pia Mellody
Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
Beyond Codependency – Melody Beattie

Here's a link to an older thread where we did a lot of discussion related to codependency. These books are referenced there as well.
narcissistic-personality/topic47709-20.html?hilit=Codependent

My problem is getting into a psychotic rage when there is no more ways of getting attention in the way that i want. A friend recommended a shrink to get on a mood stabilizer, but truthfully, i feel best when im in that state because that is when my traits come out to an extreme, making me feel that i have complete power.

Pathogen wrote:My problem is getting into a psychotic rage when there is no more ways of getting attention in the way that i want. A friend recommended a shrink to get on a mood stabilizer, but truthfully, i feel best when im in that state because that is when my traits come out to an extreme, making me feel that i have complete power.

I agree, anger and hate is the best motivator.

Sadly all I have is nothingness at the moment and life is overwhelmingly boring.

I'm finding that self-control which comes out of a strong personal identity provides impetus to my life.
Anger and hate may give me adrenaline rushes but they provide no motivation to me.
I can't remember the last time I was bored. Really.
But then again, I'm not narcissistic.
Good to see you again, NMUN!