What now?

Not sure where this belongs to, but I'm okay with this post being moved to a different forum. This is a social problem that I've been carrying with myself for almost a year. I met a guy just when I started going to college in 2023. Everything was well at first for only 2.5 months, then suddenly - he became a different person. He just went cold and distant, for what reason - I have no clue. I've never said or done anything wrong to him, he's been avoiding me ever since then and I'm lost and confused. Moreover, I can't seem to just let go. Only thing I know, is that he told me that he'd been feeling miserable and awful and believed that nothing would change. I tried my best to be supportive and ask him to say something so I could at least hear him and be there for him. He didn't. He added that he'd been not talking to me for other reason - that's the part where it sends me down to a giant grave of anxiety and depression. Onward to April, I checked up his Instagram account and noticed that he had removed me from his close friends list and I felt so deeply saddened, then on August, just only a few weeks away from starting second year in college, he had added me again! What's all this? What the hell is going through his thick skull?

Please, if anyone's been in the same boat - share and suggest on I can do something about it, because obviously, this has been nagging me nonstop and I just want to rest from all of this misery. Thank you.

This sounds to me (but to a person with a hammer all problems appear to be like nails) like a person who could show signs of a schizoid personality disorder. We long for closeness and fear it at the same time. So maybe he tried, found out, that it did'n work that well, endet it and now hopes again that maybe … But whatever it is: I'd suggest to give up on him and to don't take it personally. You should find someone who makes you feel better, not worse.

I'm back! I appreciate for the reassurance. 2 months later after I posted this, one of my coursemates mentioned that he had said some horrible things about me, which I won't explain because I don't want to remember. We're still no longer talking to each other since then. I've given up on him, so I'm pretending that he's just an image of my head.

Hi, first of all, this guy is toxic, as he has toxic red flags. The best thing you can do is leave that in the dust. You definitely don't want to involve yourself with someone like this. Be grateful it was only a short-lived 2.5 months instead of years! Just try to accept, process your feelings, and move on from it. You need to live for you and not dwell on someone who never cared.