Hello,
I am from India. Its been 4 years now after the marriage. Whatever the care and love I give to my wife, I was not at all getting back. So I was frustrated and some kind of quarrels happened between in-laws(father in-law showing cruelty always against me) and me also between we both. But later I have tried to solve all the issues by apologizing everything and resumed the life multiple times after each small breakups. And she always want to stay with her parents and parents also want their daughter be with always. She gets seizures frequently and her parents are showing extra care always. Due to her seizures, someone would be always be in home to take care. And now we have a 1 year old girl. When baby was around 6 months, we shifted to new place and which is little far from my in-laws house. But my wife was not at all showing any kind of happiness here at the new city and was doing silent treatment. I asked several times the reason for unhappy, but she did not open up. She was always behaved me with arrogance. Also withhold the sex / rarely happened during these days. I usually took her for some weekend trips, tours etc but nothing made her happy. 6 months passed now in the new city. Later she demanded to visit and stay few months with her parents. I did not agree that. Few days after that, in-laws came to our home and took my wife and kid forever. In-laws blamed me a lot, lot of false allegations. But I haven't done anything wrong at all, but I could not prove it and I became helpless. I shouted loudly and scolded them in a very bad way and did the same back. And finally they demanded a mutual consent divorce. But I did not agree that. And same day wife and kid left my home. Now they stay with her parents in a different city. She has no her on decisions, whatever her parents say she blindly follow that. Also I dont know they are threatening me saying about divorce and If I get afraid and surrender, then they have full control over me.
Later I consulted a psychologist personally and explained whatever happened in my life. Then psychologist told me that, it looks like my wife has NPD symptoms and father in-law also showing very aggressive behavior(father in-law also showing symptoms of NARC). But I was not at all aware of NPD in last 4 years life.
My question is that, will she comeback to my life? Shall I keep in touch or need to ignore she completely for few months. She do not attend my phone calls. Now I message her, whenever I want to see my baby. Then she will arrange a video call.
I know that, she is now in a very comfort zone(with her parents). And her parents are ready to fulfill all her needs and they wont even say a "no" to their daughter. Father in-law also standing in between as a barrier. I want my wife and kid back, but dont know how its possible. In-laws are very adamant. So its very tough to approach them. I know that, reuniting once again is like sacrificing my life. But I have to consider my 1 year old girl future also. Expecting some valuable suggestions.