Being split

I was split black (i don't know if that's the right terminology) about a month ago by someone very close to me with bpd and I don't know how to help the situation. She's my best friend and the only person that's ever really been there for me, she has a history of self-harm and suicide attempts but she's been better the past year, and she's never split me before. She's everything to me, and I was everything to her only a month ago and I'm not really familiar with how BPD works and what's going on inside her head. Before she split me, she told me she kinda had feelings for me and I'd never been happier, I'd felt the same way about her for ages and we were both super happy that night. We poured our hearts out to each other and I've seriously never been happier. From here she started talking to me less and less and she was never mean to me or anything like that, but sort of like she just completely lost all emotion towards me. After a couple weeks I tried to talk about it with her and she says she doesn't know why it happened or what caused it, and she barely talks to me now. Does the split normally settle after a while? will things between us go back to the way they were eventually? is there anything I can do to try and fix it? She's everything and this is hurting me so much

Hey Johndoe22,

We can only guess. Often, even the people with BPD often don't know why they go through that emotional disconnect, though it is possible that was triggered by getting emotionally closer.

I can only guess though that at some point she will be back, but also be aware, it's likely to happen again.