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controlling symptoms
by annalese » Sun Aug 19, 2018 3:06 am
my friend is a victim of the symptoms of his partners bpd. his homelife is destructive and depressing. his partner can not control herself because she has bpd so he gives her a very wide birth. however she has a professional career and whilst at work shows no symptoms of bpd. if she couldnt control herself at work she would be sacked for her behaviour. so she controls herself at work. how is she able to do this
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Re: controlling symptoms
by xdude » Mon Aug 20, 2018 1:34 pm
Hey annalese,
From my own experience, this is common with BPD. Most people with BPD do know what the social norms are, but also, often what triggers people with BPD is those close relationships. Work is work, no significant emotional investment in others there.
It is those who are emotionally close that triggers the fears of abandonment (or some say fears of betrayal, or fear of commitment).
Also it doesn't mean she isn't struggling with keeping her emotions in check at work, but that can also mean all that is going to come out around her partner (think 'pressure cooker').
From my own experience, this is common with BPD. Most people with BPD do know what the social norms are, but also, often what triggers people with BPD is those close relationships. Work is work, no significant emotional investment in others there.
It is those who are emotionally close that triggers the fears of abandonment (or some say fears of betrayal, or fear of commitment).
Also it doesn't mean she isn't struggling with keeping her emotions in check at work, but that can also mean all that is going to come out around her partner (think 'pressure cooker').
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