Help about a relationship with a possible bipolar person

Hello. I need some help and / or advices please.

A few months ago I met a woman with whom I very quickly started a relationship. She was emerging from a recent depression following the death of her mother. At first she was euphoric, full of life, restless, she said that I made her reborn, that I put sunshine on her darkened soul, that I was doing her good, that she hoped we would follow this new path together again and again. We did not want a traditional relationship, not a couple thing, but just meet up to spend beautiful moments together for a few hours, or a few days. We had reached a rare alchemy between us, something intense, unique as she said. She wanted my presence besides her whenever she had time. She kept telling me how she wanted to be close to me, and when we were together we could not take off each other. We wrote constantly. She just told me not to get too much attached, that she could give me only the present and no future. It lasted 3 months.

Then one day she learned that her son has a serious illness. It shocked her and since that day she started to be elsewhere, more and more distant, until she told me after a week that a parenthesis had closed for her. That she could not give me anything anymore, that her libido had vanished, that sadness and melancholy fell on her. She needed solitude. That she was not made for me, that my happiness was not near her and that she no longer believed in love anyway. That I had to go away, to detach myself from her because I was too attached and she did not want it. That she did not want to hurt me because it would be more suffering for her. I tried to explain to her that in 3 months necessarily I had become attached, that I wished that she would stay in my life, that I was there to support her. She replied that she did not disappear but that she was far away, elsewhere. Abated, without energy, tired of all the misfortunes that had accumulated for years. She told me that these three months of respite were already unexpected, that she did not think that it would last so long. Then she told me more and more dryly that we were not friends, not after this, not now, that we were no longer lovers, that I could not do anything for her, that I had to give ourselves some time or I would end up to hate her. Until finally she sent me a terse message recently that ended with "good summer to you".
In less than 3 weeks I saw her distance herself, ask me to move away too, and end up locked her in silence and in a social withdrawal too I think.
I still hope to see her again. Some words in his latest posts let me know that later on we could.

So here I am in total disarray, I would like to help her, show her that I am there if she wants, that I will not run away from what she lives because I care about her. That I can be there while remaining free of my life and my future (it is very important to her that I remain free). What can I do ? For now I leave her alone. Only a message yesterday telling her again that I will be there for her. She read it. No reply.

I do not know if she suffers from bipolarity but after going through some sites and fora in recent days I ask myself the question in regard of her behavior.

Thank you for your answers.
(English is not my mother tongue so be indulgent please.)

N.

Since you write "with possible bipolar person," have you asked if they are diagnosed bipolar? I actually relate to all of the symptoms you describe, but I cannot diagnose because, well, I'm not her doctor.

I'm sorry you are hurting right now. I don't know what else to say for the moment. Sending hugs, if wanted.

Yes I know this is just an assumption. This was so sudden, I didn't have the time to have a real discussion with her about this. And anyway I doubt she would have answered me. She is seeing a psychologist, she has a long story of traumas in her life. But she never wanted to adress them directly with me.
Thank you for your support

Well, I know it's hard to ask, and she seems like she doesn't want to talk period. But my advice is to be patient and seek her out to see if she feels better. Ask something like, "I hope you are feeling better. I'm thinking of you. I want what's best for you." Something like that. I hope others here reply. Her behavior is something I would do. When very depressed I just want to be left alone. I don't want others to see me at my worst and I feel like there is no fix in my life. If she is seeing a psychologist, that's great. Like I said, I hope you get more replies. Wishing you the best.

Yes, I understand. That is why I left her alone. I don't want to be too much present, to irritate her with too much messages.
I will write once in a week or so. Without even waiting for her to reply. Just to show her that I am here, that I care.
This is a balance to find I think.

Thank you again.

Let us know how it goes, if you can.

Yes I will.
I hope our story is not over.

I suffer with bipolar 1 with psychoses. I have been in my relationship for over 19 years. At first I didn't tell her about my disorders. i lived in a state of mania for years and she just figured i was fun loving, charismatic and full of life. Its not till 2015 that she discovered my flaws. I was getting mad and going crazy. Now she debates on whether she wants to stay with me. I have many years of trauma and don"t want to hurt her, but don"t know how to keep her safe so i push her away. my advise is to just be patient and let her deal with things and i believe she will respond to you

Thank you for your answer Rainmedic70.
I want to believe she pushes me away to keep me safe too. To free me from the hassles of her life, from her suffering and weariness. But I am not someone who run away when something wrong occurs. I take people with their strenghts and their flaws. Even if it is hard sometimes, to understand, to not be able to do anything except assuring her I will be there... So I will be patient and see if she will respond. I really hope so.
Thank you again.