Really Struggling right now!

I just came across this old thread. I can identify with each one of these comments.

histrionic-personality/topic48501.html

Xdude, your comment on the jealousy topic couldn't be more accurate. She used to describe to me how her husband would never get jealous of her or show that "he cared" the same way I would and she clearly was measuring that through jealousy. She always had a disappointed look on her face when describing this of him. She said he always just laughed her off. Of course, I just fell for her tactics and would tell her how unfair that was to her and that I would never act that way, etc. She would say that he would hit on girls in front of her all the time without remorse. The tactics, the lies, the stories were endless, I can't say it enough, it just scrambled my mind. Jay Mack was so right in his comment on this thread, it'll be harder to get out later than now. Xdude has been spitting out fantastic advice for years clearly.

The Jealousy Game is so destructive, and it really is unwinnable.

As you wrote, if you had no reaction, you would fail the test (this is proof you don't care). If you do have a reaction, you still fail the test (this is proof you are insecure, or controlling). No win possible.

Either way damage to the relationship occurs, and adds up.