Happy new year everyone,
I was away from the internet for a while because the more I read the more I suffer.
Thank you all for your helpful posts. I'm still in the no contact phase. I see some emotional progress on my side. Last time I was feeling care and was worried about her. Now at least these feelings in addition to feelings of guilt are about to disappear.
Thank you all.
Our partner
I'm breaking up today with hpd
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Re: I'm breaking up today with hpd
by ralph001 » Tue Jan 02, 2018 3:28 pm
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Re: I'm breaking up today with hpd
by xdude » Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:07 pm
Hey ralph,
Good to read. Yea, it's good to take a break. Put it out of your mind and just live. What's going on with others is not the real problem anyway. It's what's going on in our own heads/hearts, our perception, that, if changed, makes all the difference. Do what you need so that you feel good again.
Amen. Fixers, savers, the overly supportive especially, need a healthy dose of 'take care of me first' thinking.
It's good advice a friend would give a friend, and good advice to give ourselves. If it feels selfish, that is because our own sense of balance needs an adjustment (just as someone who really is overly self-centered could use some balance in the other direction).
Good to read. Yea, it's good to take a break. Put it out of your mind and just live. What's going on with others is not the real problem anyway. It's what's going on in our own heads/hearts, our perception, that, if changed, makes all the difference. Do what you need so that you feel good again.
Monstergirl wrote:If I wrote what you wrote, and felt how you felt, what advice would you give me, a total stranger?
Honestly.
That's your answer. I wish you the very best. And thank you for posting.
Amen. Fixers, savers, the overly supportive especially, need a healthy dose of 'take care of me first' thinking.
It's good advice a friend would give a friend, and good advice to give ourselves. If it feels selfish, that is because our own sense of balance needs an adjustment (just as someone who really is overly self-centered could use some balance in the other direction).
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