Extreme Family Issues: HELP

Hello there, the reason I've decided to post this is because it's very important to find a solution within the next few months for my child's sake, and I have no idea where else to go. All names used are fake names for the sake of anonymity.

I'll start by saying I love my fiancee (Diane) very much, and she is 5 months pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. She also has a very troubled family attached to her, and it's tearing me down to stand by like an idiot and watch them make screw up after screw up.

Out of the whole bunch, Diane and her father (Roland) seem to be the only two without any problems. Diane is very competent and full of compassion, and she is successful in her line of work, much like her father Roland who makes a great deal of money and literally is the only thing keeping the family together. The mother (Jane), on the other hand, is by any standard, failing her children, and her husband.

Jane has been under the influence of delusional hysteria for as long as I've known her. She considers herself a sort of prophetic individual and believes she can talk to God and Mother Mary. I was Christian prior to meeting her, and though she is not forceful in her beliefs, her delusions have driven me from faith. The biggest now confronting the family is a False Pregnancy, or Hysterical Pregnancy, which has been denied by medical professionals but reinforced by 'Christian' peers and her eldest daughter (Amy).

All of Jane's birth-kids are adults, but she adopted two children, one is (Preston), now 15, and the other (Emily), 5. Emily is the daughter of the middle birth child (Jackie), and she suffers from ADHD and increasing behavioral issues, mostly because Jackie drank and did drugs during the first half of the pregnancy. Preston was adopted from Turkey, suffered a stroke prior to adoption causing life long problems, and he has extreme oppositional defiant disorder, steals from the family, and no longer recognizes Jane as his mother (the false pregnancy killed his respect for her; it went as far as him trying to stress her out enough to miscarry the babies, which turned out to be imaginary). Preston will likely be placed on disability. Emily is a spoiled child, and I fear if her adoptive mother fails to perform her duty, she will end up like her biological mother or Preston. Jane has cut Preston out of her life because she doesn't know how to control him without getting angry, and this means she has failed him as a mother. The false pregnancy has also given her ample opportunity to place herself on bed rest instead of controlling the children entrusted to her through adoption.

Amy is also incredibly problematic. She is an aspiring naturopathic Nurse-midwife, and has done nothing but fuel her mother's belief in the false pregnancy. She has two children of her own from two failed relationships. She can not maintain a job, shares religious delusions with her mother, and encourages and extends the length of her mother's hysterical pregnancy which has brought much online ridicule for her family. She constantly gives Jane faith that she actually is pregnant, even though this has gone on for more than a year and three months and her body isn't capable of beating children due to the lack of an intestine, or for that matter, the fact that the father had a vasectomy and therefore couldn't even impregnate her.

What's worse at hand however is the fact that Amy is incredibly inconsiderate of others and narcissistic. She will not only allow her children to run wild, but she will react with hostility if anyone asks her to control them or be mindful of others. She is a slob, can't even keep her landlords happy, and zones out under stress. She seems to be addicted to her phone, and will neglect those around her, children included, if her "autism" is triggered... This is a sociable person that once went out to bars nightly and was extensively sociable, involved in numerous high-emotion relationships. She used to have "seizures" where she goes into a rage. She does not seem autistic to me. She has immense conflicts with Preston, which I can not stand because they can get physical. He is a child, no matter how badly he behaves. Her eldest son (Dom) was also the result of a rape she suffered one night she was out drinking, her fiancee left her two years later believing she had cheated instead. She has also been dumping her children on Roland regularly and leaving with Jane to go shopping or "talk" or have movie nights. Roland is complacent in this, and he is also the only source of income for the family. I fear for his job at times because of how inconsiderate Jane and Amy can be when he has to take a business call.

Financially, this family is a mess. They own multiple houses and recently moved to Kentucky so the mother could escape the "spiritual" influence of Virginia. The father earns a great deal of money, but they are in debt and Jane and Amy spend every cent. They live well out of their means, and somehow, the father has stuck with them through all of this, even though neither Amy nor Jackie were his biological children. Only Diane is, whom is my fiancée. Their house is also a mess, I'd say it's not quite on the same scale as some of the homes featured on the "Hoarders" series, but it is damn close to that.

Overall, the dysfunction and conflict within this family has tested Diane and I quite a bit. If she and Roland were as bad as her mom's side is, I'd have left her a long time ago for fear she might have inherited the same problems from her mother's mental issues. I'd love to just move far away from this mess, but I don't want Diane to resent me and there are children whose livelihood is at stake. I myself have sacrificed too much for our relationship and will not abandon my child, so finding a way to help Diane's family is the only option I have.

My objectives are #1 to find a solution to Jane's hysterical pregnancy and return her to a sane state of mind, and #2 to ensure that Preston and Emily, Dom and Amy's latest baby have a fair chance for a normal life, and #3 to get this family to a state where I don't daydream about calling child services on either Jane or Amy.

If I sound callous or anything, it's only because I'm trying to be as detached from the emotional side of this as possible. I haven't told anyone about this mess before, but I'm trying to stay as detached as possible for privacy reasons.