The love of my life is a compulsive gambler.

months after I met my fiancé. He came out to me about his gambling addiction. I did not realize the magnitude of this type of addiction. I being a recovered cocaine addict can understand addiction. So I gave him a chance knowing what he had dealt with.

At the time he seemed to have it under control and claimed that he had.. As most addicts will do when they're in denial. Just wish I would nave been smarter. Things were going well and the relationship was fantastic. So we decided to combine money to take things to the next level after a few more months of being together. Things went well for a couple months. Then I fell for it. He was trying to do something special for me and asked that I not check our acct. Balance for a couple of weeks. I trusted him so this want an issue. . long story short he spent all of my money and his.. And borrowed 2 grand from my all without my knowledge. And right before I found out he proposed to me.. Just for me to learn all of this the next day.

Since then he voluntarily got black listed from all casinos in this state. He is no longer on our joint back account... But I made the mistake of giving him my debit card and his withdrawn money and overdrafted the account many times pretty severely. So now he is no longer allowed to have it unsupervised. He and I both have come to the conclusion that he has had an issue with withholding information from me. Since the proposal in may he claims to not have gambled. And he states that he is no longer withholding money matters. I am having a difficult time coping.. We've only been together 1year and so much has happened already... I love him so much. LEaving him would be painful for me and wouldn't help him. So idk what to do.. Anyone care to share any hints or stories? He has been having a gambling addiction since the age of 21 and he is now 26. He has stolen from his father. We both have 1 child from previous relationships.

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