Adult son of narcisstic mom -NEEDS HELP

I need help with suggestions for helping my extremely abused adult boyfriend who after several months , realized he is the scspegoat in the family dynamics puppeteerd by narcisstic mom! I observed her verbsl abuse by accident be cause upon entering g his house (without prior notice of family visit btw!), yelled at his 6'2" tall frame rendering his posture that of an abused hovering woman or child with arms up in a defensive fashion which his sister quickly informed her to stop after I com Passionately told her that I turned the AC On cause he was obviously hot after mowing the lawn! She calls me to I form me that he's an idiot & must isolated, at home, depressed & lonely because he has alot to do & he obediently complies (after drinking vodka heavy due to defeated beat down self esteem telling me he doesn't care & belongs home because he has to be a good caring son & I Give him of options to get freedom by escaping & going to trade school so he may reach his potential thus becoming his true self!
I'v read self help segments from Louise Hay's books & many websites on the topic but he is so brainwashed exhibiting stockholme syndrome & is left in pain (due to tynanium hip rrplacement)forced to work for bro moving furniture & paid less than minimum wage & paid whenever they get around to it! He is humiliated by mom at workplace which makes workers there feel entitled to treat him in same way & he tells me they friends! He thanx me but always returns home & back to abysses --I feel like "50 first dates" movie! He is treated like male version of Cinderella & all in the words he repeats that he is a good caring son & they're out for his best interest obviously in parrot rehearsed manner?!
His doesn't have a bed us house furnished obviously by elderly mom who told me he doesn't listen to her & he uses same words that he can't think or talk to ppl & why does he think because only thoughts & I tell him wmphatically that thoughts and words are powerful & he must get help & find his true self & happiness! His mother says (he mimics!) that he has a lot to do & runs in circles going nowhere fixing n doing mundane tasks like "a tale wagging a dog" & he tells me he's confused!!! She told me he's nothing & NOONE wants him & he wears torn old clothes not permitted (I figured) to get haircut ..I'm so sad for him & fearful soon he will be too enmeshed to have ability to leave his imposed prison ! Please help ASAP

Hi, your post is being moved into the Signficant Others Forum, with a copy thread remaining in Living with Mental Illness, so you can gain the perspective and support of two forums.

I Give him of options to get freedom by escaping & going to trade school so he may reach his potential thus becoming his true self!

The best thing and only thing he can do if he wants a life of his own is to get away. A narc family like this is a nightmare, they will never change.

She calls me to I form me that he's an idiot & must isolated, at home, depressed & lonely because he has alot to do & he obediently complies (after drinking vodka heavy due to defeated beat down self esteem telling me he doesn't care & belongs home because he has to be a good caring son

Wow. He has got to get outta there A.S.A.P.
He absolutely does NOT need to be a good and caring son, because that woman does not deserve it, she deserves nothing from him, because she is a cruel, lazy, abusive toe rag.
My parents were both NPD, selfish, neglectful and self absorbed.

He's lucky he's got you to be there for him.